6 Friends With Benefits Rules That Make A Difference

Having casual sex with someone can be fun, but there are some friends with benefits rules that you really need to follow, especially if you’re not interested in anything more than a satisfying romp.

A few good movies and a few bad stories from friends could have taught you a few things about the infamous FWB relationship. You can’t have the cake and eat it too.But if that’s exactly what you want to do, here are some things you need to keep in mind.

# Don’t fall in love

This is the biggest friends with benefits rule and the easiest one to remember. Don’t fall in love. But then again, this is also the hardest one to follow.

At first, it might sound easy to do. You might think, “I’m just horny! I don’t care about falling in love or having a relationship. It’s all about sex!” But after you sleep together for a while, you might find yourself getting emotionally attached. You want to avoid that at all costs so you don’t fall in love.

# Have emotional maturity

Understand what kind of a relationship you’re getting into right from the start. There isn’t supposed to be a happy ending. Be satisfied with a satisfying ending.

If you’re not emotionally mature, it’s going to be really difficult for you to handle a friends with benefits situation. You have to deal with the possibilities of jealousy and it being an emotional rollercoaster. If you’re not prepared for that, then this situation might not be for you.

# Set ground rules

This is one of the most important friends with benefits rules. How often should both of you call each other and how often should you meet? Can you date other people? And if so, can you talk about it?

These rules aren’t set in stone, but both of you must make a conscious effort to follow them. It’s a really smart idea to discuss this upfront before you even have sex for the first time. Don’t leave it until later, because then it will be too late.

# Don’t get clingy for attention

Your friend with benefits isn’t your lover. Okay, technically, they are your lover. But that’s it. Nothing else. You will have to keep reminding yourself that.

Don’t constantly call them or try to make a conversation when you have nothing better to do. Keep it strictly all about sex. See the last rule for the ground rules if you feel like you are getting clingy and need more attention.

# Keep it a secret

Don’t talk to your friends about it. Gossip has a funny way of spreading within minutes after you tell a friend about it. You’ll end up pissing your friend with benefits or getting a bad reputation.

The reason it’s a good idea to keep it a secret is that other people may not understand it. They might wonder why you aren’t dating. Then, you open up yourselves to a lot of judgment. It’s best to avoid that.

# Don’t sleep with two friends from the same group

It’s too risky and you may get caught, especially if both of them are trying to exchange sly smiles and sneaky glances with you, or worse, trying to reach out to your crotch from under the table at the same time.