6 Ideas On How Often Should You See Your Boyfriend Or Girlfriend

You’re young, you’re in love, you can’t bear to be away from your new boyfriend or girlfriend for more than a second. Does this sound familiar? It’s a wonderful feeling, but it’s also a confusing time too. You don’t want to appear too keen, but you want to spend as much time with them as possible. So, how often should you see your boyfriend or girlfriend to hit the balance between having your own independence versus being a little too clingy?

We often think that we need to adhere to an invisible set of guidelines or rules when it comes to knowing how often should to see boyfriends and girlfriends. We think we should do certain things by certain times, and say specific words by certain times. Basically tick relationship milestones off, almost as if we’re ticking tasks off our daily to-do list.

The good news? It doesn’t have to be that stressful.

The truth is real relationships don’t work like that. Throw out the so-called rule book. Instead, focus on what feels right to you!

# Send a good morning text every day

Don’t be the only one to do this, your partner needs to take the responsibility too sometimes! But, the idea is that you touch base with one another when you get up and say “good morning.”

No, you do not have to send the text before you’ve even got out of bed, but at some point during your morning routine. You are allowed your coffee first!

# Then, send a good night text every day

In addition to texts to say “good morning,” you should also send a goodnight text too. It helps the other person to sleep better because they know you’re thinking about them. Again, make sure you don’t end up being the one who sends the text all the time. This should be a two-way thing.

# Random texts throughout the day

Don’t overdo it, you don’t need a constant text stream of conversation throughout the whole day, but a few random texts at odd times during the day is enough. If you see something funny, you can text them about it. If you see a meme you think they’ll appreciate, send it.

# Meet at least once a week, but 2-3 times if possible

Learning how often to see your boyfriend or girlfriend is a pretty fluid thing. You don’t have to see each other every day and it’s probably going to be impossible to do so anyway unless you work together or attend the same classes.

But, you need to make sure you’re spending quality time together at least once a week, but around 2-3 times per week is obviously better. It depends on your schedule, but 2-3 times means that you’re getting that blend between spending time together and spending time with your friends or alone.

Also, when you arrange to meet up and do something together, don’t cancel it unless you really have to. Date nights are important!

# You can meet every day, but don’t change your plans

As we’ve already said, if you’re not working or studying in the same place, you’re going to find it hard to see each other daily without causing major scheduling issues! That’s okay. We all have our own lives and it’s important to keep those ticking along nicely.

If you want to see each other more often, you can try to fit in a coffee in the afternoon or a meeting at night but don’t start changing your regular plans. When you do that, you’re going to mess up the balance and probably cause another part of your life to go out of whack.

# If you start to feel overwhelmed, learn your lesson

When trying to figure out how often you should see your boyfriend or girlfriend, you have to remember that it’s not supposed to feel difficult.

If you start to feel overwhelmed and as though you have no time for yourself, pull back a little and take it as a sign that you’re forcing things. If you feel that way, your partner probably does too!

It’s important to find a routine of time alone and time together that works well for the both of you. When it starts to feel stressful, it’s not fun anymore.