6 Most Common Mistakes Women Make

Sometimes, it can be very tricky to try to find out what is going wrong in your relationship. You might have the feeling that things aren’t quite as perfect as they should be, but you can’t quite put your finger on what the problem is.

Making things even more confusing is the fact that it is often difficult to view your own relationship in an objective light. However, luckily there are many common mistakes that women make in relationships, which you may find that you’re currently doing.

By checking if you’re doing any of these things, you can pinpoint exactly what you may be doing to contribute to the downward slope of your relationship.

# Being overly needy

This is one of the single greatest mistakes that women make in relationships. Men are looking for romantic partners, not clients for a psychotherapy practice. So if you find yourself trying to get your boyfriend or partner to solve all of your emotional problems, this can definitely be an issue.

Sometimes, the emotions just start flying when you enter a relationship. Especially if your boyfriend is emotionally stable – you might see the relationship as an opportunity to heal some of your issues from your past. While healthy relationships definitely do involve emotional support, your boyfriend most likely does not want to become your therapist.

# Being completely emotionally unavailable

On the other side of the emotional spectrum is complete emotional unavailability. In order to create a relationship that lasts, your boyfriend needs to be able to connect with you on a deep, emotional level. If you have too many walls up, he might feel that there is a barricade around your heart.

While many guys might see this as an exciting challenge at first, if they feel that they will never be able to break through the barricade, they might give up on you. So look out for that.

# Being too sarcastic

Sarcasm can often provide humor and comic relief, but too much of it, or inappropriate use of it, can make your boyfriend feel insecure. If you are constantly using sarcasm, your boyfriend might be getting the impression that you don’t actually like him enough, or that you can’t be genuine.

# Lying

This is another big mistake that both men and women often make in relationships. Trust is an important component of most relationships. Even though men are generally bigger and stronger than their girlfriends, they are not immune to heart ache, or the pain of being lied to. So, if you want your man to keep his heart invested in you, you have to make sure that he trusts you. He doesn’t want to get hurt either!

# Being unreliable

If you tell your boyfriend that you are going to meet him for a date at seven thirty, but don’t show up until an hour later, this is going to bother him. Besides the fact that you are wasting his time, it’s a metaphor for other things in your life.

Being unreliable about timing can translate to being unreliable about other things, like your job, or your bills, or other important things. If you are constantly proving yourself to be unreliable, it could definitely be putting strain on your relationship, and might be causing your boyfriend to rethink the whole thing.

# Being extremely messy

Although you may thrive in an apartment filled with mountains full of your belongings and other random objects strewn about it, it might be a turnoff for your boyfriend. In this situation, he might be thinking further down the line, and worrying that his life could turn into an episode of Hoarders. So, you might want to throw away some of the junk that you haven’t touched in three years.