6 Reasons Why Kissing An Ex Is Usually A Very Bad Idea

You thought it was just a harmless get-together where you would reminisce about the old times and show your ex how much better you are now. But then you kissed your ex and ended up in a lip-lock without realizing how it even started. It happened. Now, you have to deal with it.

No matter who started it, the point is that you both allowed it to happen. The fact that you and your ex kissed means that there are still lingering feelings between the two of you. It’s not necessarily love, but it does prove that you two are still attracted to each other.

When two people who broke up reconcile in any form – be it with a date, a kiss, or even sex – it rekindles something between the two of you. It’s not necessarily something good. More often than not, reconciling with an ex can lead to consequences.

# They’re just in it for the hook-up

Your ex thinks your history makes it okay for them to try something with you. It doesn’t mean that they want to rehash old memories and feelings. They simply don’t want to bother with someone new.

It’s perfectly fine if this is what you want, and you also don’t have any romantic feelings left for them. But if you agree to sleep with them, hoping it’ll make them change their mind and feel something for you again, it probably won’t end well.

# You broke up for a reason

Whether you two ended on good terms, it was mutual, or one of you called it off. You two had thought about it thoroughly before making that decision and going through with it.

Yes, people do change, and you two might work if you give it another go, but you can never continue where you left off. You need time to get to know them as a new person.

And if you ended on bad terms and that reason has never been resolved, kissing your ex might make those issues bubble up to the surface again.

# They might want to get back together even if you don’t

Kissing is an intimate act that can trigger the basest of feelings like lust. In many circumstances, it can also trigger feelings of love and affection. If you have no intention of getting back together, kissing might give your ex the wrong idea.

# You could fall for your ex again

You have made a conscientious effort to move on, don’t let this sudden tryst ruin it. If you still have a soft spot for your ex, kissing them could rekindle old feelings and all your closure effort will go down the drain.

# They might already be in a relationship

If you kissed your ex knowing that they’re seeing someone else, you have just crossed into dangerous territory. Not only did you put yourself in a situation where you’ll end up as the third party, but you have voluntarily acted in a way that could hurt someone else.

And if they’re willing to cheat on their current partner with you, what makes you think they’ll be faithful to you, if you two ever get back together?

# You might be in a relationship

No matter how much history you have, cheating is always inexcusable. One kiss may seem small to you, but the person you’re seeing won’t feel that way.

You may say that it meant nothing, that you feel sorry, that you regret it, but it won’t be easy to fully gain back your partner’s trust.