6 Reasons You Should Reconsider Before Giving Up On Love

In the modern practical world we live in, love can come in different shapes and sizes. Just because it does not arrive in the package or color you want, does not mean you should close the doors on it. Maybe you are already surrounded by love, but you are not looking for it in the right place? Or perhaps you haven’t learnt to read the signs of a soulmate coming your way yet!

It could also be that you are waiting for the magic to happen but instead you need to put yourself out there and make the magic happen yourself. There is no age, time or situation for love. It comes to those who believe in it. Whether you are giving up on love at 40 years of age or feeling disheartened after a divorce or simply got your heart broken by your bench mate in school, none of these reasons are good enough to believe you will not find it again.

# Do you have very high standards?

Unfortunately, movies and pop culture have spoilt our expectations about love. Too handsome, too beautiful, too rich, too educated, too funny… does your list of qualities for your dreamboat run long? Maybe you need to be a bit more realistic about relationships. This does NOT mean you lower your standards or compromise but when you feel like giving up on love, check whether you are giving too much importance to the superficial.

# Step out of your comfort zone

The first rule of inviting love into your life is to be open to it. If you want to break the pattern, do things differently. Step out of your comfort zone and seek a relationship where you haven’t before. Try a dating app or joining a singles club.

If you have always dated older men or women, try going out with someone younger. When you feel like giving up on love, instead tell yourself that it might be time to change things up a bit. Don’t assume things about your likes and dislikes; give yourself a chance. You might be pleasantly surprised with what you find.

# You aren’t happier otherwise

Feeling disillusioned and negative about relationships all the time are signs you’ve given up on love. It might be due to past relationship experiences or your own unfulfilled expectations but perhaps you need to change your attitude about the whole thing.

Has NOT being in love or closing off on the possibility of a relationship made you any happier? Are you shutting the door on someone nice because of fear? Instead of a negative mindset, why not work from a positive springboard instead? Don’t give up on love or yourself so quickly.

# Age has nothing to do with it

Love can strike anytime – at 20, 30, 40, 50 or later! The form and expectations may definitely evolve but just because people around you have met their soul mates in their 20s or 30s does not mean giving up on love at 40 or later in life. You might just find love at 40.

At times, maturity, brought on by age and myriad experiences, can fetch you the most beautiful relationships that you can cherish for the rest of your life. So never ever put a number next to love. It’s only age that is a number not emotions. So next time you’re thinking about giving up on love at 30, 40 or any other age – remind yourself that love is timeless and your age does not have much to do with it.

# Develop patience

The relationship journey is never smooth. There will be hurdles, obstacles, fights and misunderstandings. To assume otherwise would be foolish. A lot of times one big fight may lead to people thinking of giving up on love altogether. Don’t jump the gun so quickly. Developing patience in a relationship is the key.

Every relationship, every person and every family deserves a second chance and just because you are disappointed or have had a few arguments are not reasons to give up on someone you love. You have contributed and nurtured a relationship; give it more than a few chances. When you feel like giving up on love, tell yourself that you need to try a little harder. It’s the least you owe yourself.

# You don’t love yourself

The first guideline for finding love in others is to find love within. Love yourself to death first, the others come later. If you don’t practice self-love, you can’t expect others to love you. There is no point in giving up on love when you don’t believe and act as if you are worthy of it.

When you have self-doubt and low self-esteem, it impacts every aspect of your life including your relationships. Even if you do find love, you will only drive it away because of your own insecurities and inhibitions. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, look for reasons for not giving up on love. Trust us, you will find plenty.