6 Scenarios That Tell If A Guy Is Interested Or Just Being Friendly

Cupid can strike anyone at any moment. Sometimes, it happens all of a sudden. You meet someone, you feel the hormones working overtime and bingo, before long you are head over heels in love. At other times, love or attraction can develop slowly, perhaps triggered by a particular episode or over a certain period of time where you see a different side to the person.

In such scenarios, you need to make sure if the object of your affection has any inkling of your feelings. Is he interested in you or just being friendly? If he is making passes at you, then too it’s vital to know whether it’s friendly flirting or serious flirting to avoid pinning your hopes on something that may have no future. To put an end to the ‘is he being friendly or interested’ conundrum, watch out for these signs.

# He hangs around you longer than with others at work

If you’re wondering if a guy is interested in you or just being friendly at work, his efforts to spend quality one-on-one time with you is a major sign to look out for. Workplace romances have become extremely common these days as most people spend a lot of time in the office (okay, maybe that’s during the pre-pandemic days but you get the drift).

In such a scenario, it’s not unusual to develop feelings for your colleague. But just because he helps you in your project or praises you in front of others does not mean he wants to date you. To know if a coworker is interested or just being friendly, note the time he spends with you at work.

# He is interested in knowing more about you

Want to know if a guy is flirting with you or just being friendly? Well, you can get your answer by simply gauging the level of his interest in you and your life. Say you have met someone at the bar or on Tinder and you hit it off. But ‘hitting it off’ does not mean he is madly attracted to you or thinks about you after the date is over. To judge whether a relative stranger is interested in you or just being friendly, pay attention to the questions he asks you.

A man who is attracted to you will want to know more about you, your life, your interests and your ambitions. He will not be swayed by only the external trappings but will make a genuine attempt to have long and meaningful conversations with you, where he listens to you intently. It won’t most certainly be a chat about him and his life alone.

# He looks you in the eye and not at the phone

Is he being friendly or interested? Look at the way he looks at you. If your wannabe hot beau looks at his phone way too often while he is out with you, then dear girl, know that he is more enamored with his device than you. He might smile often, be extremely polite, buy you a drink and have a fun chat, but he may not be attracted enough to take things to the next level.

A man who sees you as more than the girl-next-door will have eyes only for you. He will put his phone away and be truly invested in spending quality time with you. When you’re together, he will have eyes only for you.

# He keeps in touch over texts but…

When a guy keeps texting you, don’t suspect his motives or try to add more meaning to the words he types. Don’t keep asking if he is being nice texting you back. The answer is, yes, he is. It’s a wonderful thing to do but replying to emails and texts is also a matter of etiquette.

So just because you receive prompt responses to your texts do not go into an analysis overdrive. Of course, if he is the one initiating a text, if he messages you without any rhyme or reason, and if he sends heart and kiss emojis, then maybe you can let your brain wander just a bit. But otherwise, do not read too much into texts.

# He respects boundaries

Now this is a fabulous quality to have in a potential boyfriend. Just because a man is interested in you should not make him behave like Mary’s little lamb following you all around. Or sliding up in your DMs and texting you to boredom. Whether a man is interested in you or just being friendly, respecting relationship boundaries should come naturally to him.

If a person is genuinely looking to date you, then he needs to be all the more careful of your boundaries. There is nothing sexier than a man who understands his limits and does not force his way through. A confident man will give you your space and then makes you want him in that space.

# He connects with you over social media

Social media behavior is a very important measure of knowing if someone is interested in you or just being friendly. In the latter case, he might connect with you on Facebook or Instagram but won’t stalk your every post. He won’t find it necessary to compliment every image you post or engage in a conversation.

But for a person who wants to be more than a friend to you, social media is the safest space to build on your existing connection. Keep a watch on how often he likes your posts, how soon he reacts to your posts, does he tag you when he shares something that is important for him and so on. These small gestures show the extent of his interest in you.