6 Signs Of Low Esteem In A Man
By: Kratika Wed, 13 Oct 2021 3:13 PM
Let’s be real, men really bag on women for having low self-esteem. Meanwhile, they flex in front of the mirror eight times a day and panic when a girl blocks them on Instagram. So, before you listen to them nag about us being insecure, read these signs of low self-esteem in a man. Men suffer from low self-esteem just like women do. However, they simply show it in different ways.
Since women are more emotional and expressive, our insecurities are more visible, but the thing is you can spot low self-esteem in men a mile away. You just need to be looking for the right signs.
# He’s self-deprecating
Now everyone has a tendency to be hard on themselves from time to time, this is normal, especially if stressed out. However, if your man is constantly putting himself down, it isn’t being humble, it’s just showing his low self-esteem.
He doesn’t believe that he’s capable, so, he’s insulting and belittling himself. If he’s said, “I can’t believe you want to date me” or “I never thought I’d find someone who’s a ten” he has serious self-image issues.
# Everything is seemingly perfect
He allows no faults around him. His hair is perfect, his clothes are always trendy, and his car is the one everyone is jealous of. Everything is perfect around him, but he can’t fool everyone. We all know that nothing is perfect and if something seems perfect, then there’s something severely wrong. Don’t be fooled, he is truly battling some demons inside of him.
# He’s jealous
Remember when I was talking about Twilight? Yeah, that’s low self-esteem right there. If your boyfriend is constantly checking who you’re talking to and accusing you of doing things you haven’t done, he’s highly jealous. And with low self-esteem, this never gets better. It only gets worse and worse with time, unless, you cut everyone out from your life and live in a hole.
# He criticizes you
Listen, we all need a dose of healthy criticism every now and then, and you should be able to give and receive it from your partner. However, there’s a line where healthy criticism becomes abusive.
Your partner should love you for who you are. If he’s constantly criticizing every little thing you do, he doesn’t truly love you. He’s just spewing his negativity onto you in order to make him feel big.
# He’s physical with you
If he’s pushed you or hit you before, then he’s already abused you physically. You should have left him already. If you’re noticing that he’s becoming more physical over time, this is a huge red flag of low self-esteem. He’s compensating his low self-esteem by showing you how he’s a man. This isn’t a man, this is a coward and definitely one you need to run from.
# He only wants you
He’s not into sharing you. Sure, you have friends and family but those are only people that are trying to get in between you and him, right? Wrong. But in his eyes, he can’t share you with anyone else. He doesn’t want to know your friends nor does he want you hanging out with them when he’s not around.