6 Signs That Tell You Are A Clingy Boyfriend

Being clingy in a relationship, especially at the beginning, is normal and sometimes unavoidable. Love is simple but relationships are complicated, and each relationship has an adjustment time. Ask someone, “Could you tell if your boyfriend is clingy?” and they will give you a detailed account of the annoying behaviors of an overbearing boyfriend. But it is important for both the partners to differentiate between being emotionally needy and overly possessive.

It is important to understand the reasons that a guy is showing signs of clingy behavior. It could be some deep-rooted childhood emotion or because of his past experiences. Often, if the problem is addressed and not the symptoms, it is known to have improved and strengthened the relationship. Clinginess stems from fear, anxiety, insecurity, or trauma and it is necessary to dig deeper and know what has led to this.

# You don’t understand the meaning of space

One of the most typical examples of a clingy boyfriend is that he doesn’t want to accept the fact that his partner has a life of their own beyond him. They always had a life before he came into the picture. So just because they have a boyfriend now, they can’t give up everything that’s important to them. They need space in the relationship to aspire and pursue their dreams. Their life and aspirations can’t revolve around their partner. He can be a part of it, for sure. But they need space to bloom. If he doesn’t understand this simple thing, then he should ask himself, “Am I a clingy boyfriend?”

# Your feelings come first

I once asked my friend, “How can you tell if your boyfriend is clingy?” She gave me one instance of their many, many conflicts and the picture became clear to me. One evening, She had to be somewhere urgently and she communicated to her boyfriend that she won’t be able to attend the double date they had planned. But just because he hated the idea of becoming the third wheel during dinner with another couple, he emotionally manipulated her into canceling that important meeting. Basically, a clingy boyfriend prioritizes his feelings and insecurities over his partner’s comfort, well-being, and mental peace. They tend to build a prison with love.

# You don’t realize what your partner wants

Say, they are leaving a party late at night, friendly or professional, where you are not invited. You look into the matter of their safety and offer to drop them home. Or you could talk to their cab driver, ask your partner to share the live location, and later, call to make sure they reached safely. Till this point, it is absolutely normal and responsible on your part.

But following the cab or dropping by at their place to see if they have returned or not is way across the line. Especially, if they assure you that they can handle it or after they explicitly tell you they are fine. Not being mature enough to understand boundaries is one of the signs of clingy partner.

# You always feel they don’t love you enough

If your partner forgets that you have to travel two days later on a work trip or isn’t too bothered about what you ate for breakfast, that does not mean they don’t love you anymore. When you are sitting in that conference room busy in a meeting, you also can’t answer their messages. Does that mean your feelings of love vanished magically?

If you still believe that your partner should ask you and look into every detail of your life to prove their feelings for you, you are being quite unreasonable. Relationships do not work that way. You are two separate individuals with different types of love languages. Why don’t you try to be more considerate and respectful about that?

# You want to know minute-to-minute updates

It is extremely easy to analyze if you are too clingy. Ask yourself, “Why am I a clingy boyfriend?” Why do you want to know where your partner is? Why do you want to know what your partner had for lunch every single day? Why do you feel lost if your partner doesn’t respond to your call or text immediately? These are absolute signs that you are being clingy and acting like an insecure boyfriend.

# You are constantly insecure

Are you really concerned about them or are you insecure about your importance in your partner’s life? You need constant reassurance for your sustenance. Face it, you need to keep a tab on them, not for their well-being but for your own mental peace. In a way, you are compelling them to ask themselves, “Is he clingy or controlling? Should I break up with him?” You should have better things to do than playing Sherlock Holmes on your partner.