6 Signs To Beware Of Frenemies Hidden In Friend's Clothing

If we all want to be honest, we have all had a frenemy at some point. Frenemies are supposed to be a friend, but they are a covert enemy. Typically, not liking you any more than you do them, you keep the peace because it is easier than being honest about how you feel.

Beware, the repercussions of not being friends with someone not worth pretending to be friends.The problem with frenemies is that if you get sucked in and forget your place, you end up getting really hurt. The lines between friends and enemies is one that blurs pretty frequently. If you don’t notice, you wake up with your heart broken, your secrets stolen, and feeling robbed.

# They are way too self-disclosed up front

Someone who tells you everything about them instantly is probably doing so to capture you and get a leg up. They do it to gain control over you and to get you, in turn, to give them your secretive information.

Once they know all your secrets, they’ve got you. They own you. Be careful of a friend wearing sheep’s clothing by telling you things way too early or that you know you shouldn’t be hearing. If it feels too deep and personal, it is.

# They want all of your attention

A frenemy wants all of your time and all of your attention because they don’t want any competition from other people in your life. Isolation and making sure you have no one to turn to is your frenemy’s best friend.

If they get you to blow off your other friends and focus solely on them, then who are you going to turn to when they start to push you around?

# Frenemies love to play devil’s advocate

If you have a friend who can’t seem to ever agree with you or be on your side, but rather takes the “devil’s advocate” side, they intentionally try to sabotage your feelings and any initiative that you would have to succeed.

Like popping your balloon, they never show you praise. Instead, they present to you all the reasons why things never work to keep you reliant and subordinate to them.

# They almost always have an ulterior motive

Frenemies aren’t really your friend. They seek to gain something from you. You are a means to some end. If you feel taken advantage of, guess what, that feeling is probably real. Listen to that internal feeling telling you something isn’t right. It is almost always right.

# They love drama

A frenemy likes to create conflict and drama by always digging up dirt or starting shit. They always have to be mad at someone to unite you to them. Always asking for allegiance, they create fake scenarios to pit you against other people just because.

# They love to know all the ugly

A frenemy loves to get the dirt on everyone to use later for their purposes. Almost like taking stock of everyone’s faults, failures, and what they can ultimately use to embarrass them or make them miserable. When with a frenemy, they constantly pump you for gossip and information on everyone else’s shit.