6 Signs You Should Leave Someone Instead Of Staying With Them

So you’ve had yet another night of fighting. You wake up in the morning like a drug addict who promised not to indulge again, feeling shame at yelling, losing your temper, and being in the same position as usual. If your relationship has become nothing but a cycle of a couple of okay days followed by those days that just make you want to pull the covers up over your head and stay in bed, then it may be time to rethink your relationship.

Being in a relationship where you just can’t get along is more than frustrating—it feels desperate and isolating. It can be especially difficult when you want things to work out between you so badly, but no matter what you do, nothing seems to get better.

The problem with saving a relationship is that you can only make decisions for yourself and you can only change your own behavior. Being the first one to quit can make you feel guilty and like you didn’t try hard enough, but sometimes, it’s best to see things for what they are instead of what you want them to be.

# You have lost friends

If people have started to avoid you because all you can do is ruminate about either how mad you are at your significant other or how sad you are that it isn’t working, then it may be time to take a break. Bad relationships are like throwing a stone in the water—they have a ripple effect to everything around them. Don’t lose yourself or your friendships over a bad relationship.

# They are abusive

There are all sorts of ways that someone can be abusive. Sometimes it’s the emotional scars that are more lasting and that hurt you more than the physical ones. If your significant other is either verbally or physically abusing you, then it is time to call it quits. Your physical and emotional safety always has to take priority.

# They are cheating

If you find that your significant other has cheated and you think that you can get over it, you should think long and hard about your decision. Many times, we believe that we can get past it and forgive, but in reality, the infidelity of a partner can often set off a chain of events within a relationship that can lead to a lifetime of resentment.

Being resentful and not being able to trust your partner are not healthy ways to carry on a relationship. If you can’t forgive wholly and move ahead with the relationship, then likely it is better to move on.

# They have an addiction

If you are in love with someone who has an addiction, whether it is drugs, gambling, video games, or even pornography, and you think you can change them, you are probably fighting a losing battle. If you have asked them to stop and they have continued to let you down, then they need professional help. If they are willing to seek help, and you want to stick by their side, then make the commitment to do so and stand by their side along the way.

If, however, they don’t feel they have a problem, they likely have to hit bottom to see it. You don’t want to hit bottom with them, so it might be time to say goodbye. Maybe your leaving will be the catalyst that will save them in the end.

# You can’t trust them

The cornerstone of any relationship is trust and communication. If you can’t trust the person you’re with, it will leave you always feeling like you are on shaky ground. There is nothing worse than feeling like you are always looking over your shoulder, no matter what it is. Being with someone who is willing to be upfront and honest is critical to having a mature and healthy relationship.

# You have a different ideology about life

When you begin a relationship, those things that you fundamentally disagree about don’t seem to matter much. After all, love conquers all, or does it? If you want to have a family of six, and they don’t want to have kids at all, there will likely come a day when you will be resentful that you had to give up your basic wants for them, or vice versa. If you have completely different ideas about how life should be, and it is causing major problems now, it is likely only to get