6 Signs Your Marriage Is Over From His Side

Rushing here with thoughts like, 'My marriage is over, I don't know what to do,' is a natural response if the above factors are true for you. But before making any wider assumptions, let us look into some other signs your marriage is over for him.

First things first, rid yourself of any stereotypes you may have established in your head. "Men are like this, women are like that," this way of thinking isn't going to help you. I've seen women who are extremely career-oriented, aggressive, and physically abusive. I've seen men who are extremely quiet, shy, demure.

# Emotional cheating

When you’re looking for signs your marriage is dying, there’s no bigger sign than emotional cheating. Dr. Bhonsle explains how it may look in your relationship. “He may become unusually close to a friend of the opposite gender who he refuses to introduce to his partner. A new friend who comes into the picture may suddenly appear to be more important than the partner.

“During emotional cheating, you’ll see your spouse doing stuff for this person that he typically did for you in the past. He will often hide under the caveat of “I haven’t had any sexual relations with this person, I’m not doing anything wrong”.

# If he’s spending more time away than normal, it could be worrisome

If your husband is the kind of person who’s all for solo trips and the wanderlust lifestyle, his going on a week-long expedition isn’t really a cause for concern. But if his idea of spending time away meant going to the grocery store alone and now he’s pitching his month-long solo trip to be away from you and the two kids, you’re probably not too thrilled.

Of course, it doesn’t have to be that intense. Dr. Bhonsle explains, “An inordinate amount of time spent outside the house without informing the partner is not usually the only sign that indicates a failing marriage, but it can be a sign to look out for.

# Reduced physical intimacy can be a sign he is unhappy in the marriage

So, is the old cliche true? If he doesn’t want anything to do with you sexually, is it a sign your marriage is over for men? The answer is, it’s highly subjective. “While sex is one of the important aspects of a marriage, unfortunately, these things cannot be defined in absolute terms. An alarmingly low amount of sexual intimacy changes from marriage to marriage.

# Nothing, nevermind is his staple reply

“Is my marriage really over?” Pondered Jane, talking to her friend about how her husband never seems to be able to talk to her. “He’s visibly distant, visibly zoned out. Every time I try to ask him what’s going through his mind, it’s like he snaps back to reality, dismisses me, and walks off. My marriage is over and I don’t know what to do about it,” she adds.

“There may be no issues with sex, but the husband may seem distant when it comes to conversation. He may be physically there for all the family functions and formalities but he may not have opened up about his feelings in the longest time,”.

# Is “alone time” a thing of the past?

“He may always bring your child into the room, or he may find reasons to invite the family over, often without telling the partner. Essentially, these are subtle ways to avoid spending time alone with his spouse,”.

When was the last time you asked each other how you were really doing and had a productive conversation about it? If it seems like you’re living with a roommate you occasionally have sex with, it might be one of the signs he is planning to leave you.

# Has his phone suddenly become off-limits?

Does he slyly lock his screen the minute you walk into his room? Does he freak out if you grab his phone, even if it’s just to Google something? Though it isn’t necessarily one of the signs he is planning to leave you, he is definitely hiding something.

“When couples constantly try to snoop on each other’s phone to find some kind of evidence that incriminates the other, it’s usually a telling sign that the relationship isn’t in a happy place. It reeks of trust issues and the lack of a healthy marriage.