6 Things That Make A Man A Gentleman

Finding a true gentleman can help make your dating experience amazing. They know how to satisfy women on the emotional level before they deign to venture into the physical realm. They’re considerate and kind, without being a complete doormat. However, gentlemen can be difficult to identify if you don’t know what you’re looking for.

Sometimes, women can get stuck in a rut dating the wrong kinds of guys. The bad boy appeal can be difficult to avoid until you learn better. But once you get past that phase, a gentleman can bring you dating satisfaction that you didn’t know was possible. After all, someone once said that it takes a bad man to make you thankful for a good one.

# He doesn’t actively try to make you feel insecure

Many guys will put you down during the course of a conversation. There are many ways they do this. They can use back handed compliments, sarcasm, “accidental” pointing out of your insecurities, etc. The reason men will do this is because they want you to crave their approval. Once you crave their approval, they know that there is a good chance that you will want to get with them.

Gentlemen don’t have a need to do this. They don’t like to get involved in these sort of games because they can bring long-term problems to the relationship. Also, a gentleman is willing to put the work in to win you over, as opposed to try to manipulate you through your insecurities.

# He doesn’t start fights

Guys who are more immature will often start fights in bars. They do this to demonstrate bravado, and act out emotions of frustration and sometimes anger. Their motives for these fights range from some guy giving them the wrong look to some guy eyeing the girl the non-gentleman has the hots for.

Gentlemen have less need to prove themselves, because they are often already confident enough about themselves to require beating someone in a fight. However, if they do feel the need to prove themselves, they will most likely do it in a way that does not involve risking serious injury or harming someone else. They can do this by being better at whatever it is they do or by making up for some insecurity by using humor, wit or a display of their talents.

# He has good manners

It could be something as simple as holding the door for you on the way into a building. But, whatever the case may be, gentlemen try to behave in a well mannered and kind way. They open doors, they lend coats, they carry groceries. Even if you don’t feel the need for them to help you out, they will still make the offer. Gentlemen are often just willing to take that extra step to be courteous and respectful.

# He holds himself accountable for his actions

A man who is a real gentleman will not try to dodge responsibility for his actions. If he makes a mistake, he will own it and he will apologize. He will not try to convince you that it was somehow your fault, or try to manipulate you into thinking you read the situation wrong. He will simply accept that he has made an error, and he will quickly look to resolve the situation.

# He communicates his needs and feelings

Being able to communicate efficiently is a sign of maturity. A man who can let his guard down, and tell you how he is feeling or what’s bothering him is a man who is showing you that he is man enough. He is showing you that you can count on him to help solve problems, express himself, and be able to get through things without escalating the situation with immature responses.

# He genuinely listens to you

Men who are immature oftentimes don’t listen very well. Part of the reason is because they are constantly focusing on themselves and their own issues. A gentleman, however, will have resolved enough of his own issues, to the point where he can step outside himself, and be there to listen to you or to help you. This can be an extremely important component for a healthy relationship, and can help to make you feel very satisfied with your man.