6 Things You Should Not Do To Win A Guy Over

For years it was common knowledge that the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. If you can cook him a good meal, he is all yours. This is just one old-fashioned and out-dated idea about how to win a guy over that is just wrong. Not only are we two decades into the new century and many men are capable of cooking and taking care of themselves, but you shouldn’t have to change who you are or what you enjoy, to win a guy over.

Sure, if you want to learn how to cook your guy’s favorite meal to impress him, go right ahead. But doing things like this is not exactly about you.

When you’re figuring out how to win a guy over, you want to make sure you are being true to yourself. You don’t want to alter who you are to get him interested only to feel uncomfortable in your own skin whenever you’re together.

# Play it too cool

As women, we are often told we have too many emotions and share our feelings too quickly and easily. For this reason, we are told to play it cool, especially when trying to win a guy over.

It is fine not to get ahead of yourself, but playing it too cool is not how you win a guy over. Playing it too cool means you are silencing yourself or letting go of your standards. If you overlook his sexist jokes, act like you’re not interested, or pretend to want something casual when you don’t, you are doing yourself a disservice.

# Pretend to like what he likes

If you are actually interested in learning more about his fantasy baseball league or the horsepower of his car, more power to you. But, pretending to be interested in things he likes, just to have something to talk about isn’t going to work.

Odds are he will see right through it and you’ll know you’re not being honest with yourself.

# Be overly agreeable

Yes, for years women have been told to nod along and not fight back. But again, those days are over. If you don’t agree with what he says, speak up. He will respect you a whole lot more for voicing your opinions and being headstrong.

Of course, you don’t have to pick a heated argument with him every time you have a different opinion, but you can express yourself and your thoughts without holding back. If he would rather you were meek and polite over strong and opinionated, maybe he isn’t the guy for you.

# Cancel plans for him

Trying to win over a guy doesn’t rank above other responsibilities, plans or people. Just because you like this guy and don’t want to miss an opportunity with him doesn’t mean it is okay for you to cancel plans with someone else to be with him.

By doing this, you are putting a guy you hardly know ahead of something else important in your life. Plus, being busy will help him realize you are a hot commodity.

# Wait for him

If he tells you he might be at a certain location but doesn’t nail down plans, you can show up but don’t wait all night. A guy you’re trying to win over should also be trying to win you over. He isn’t worth waiting around for.

# Do anything you’re uncomfortable with

Maybe you don’t want to turn down his offer to spend the night because you’re worried he’ll think you’re not interested. Not only are you putting his wants and desires about your comfort, but you do not need to prove anything to him for him to be interested in you.