6 Tips To Make Talking To Someone About Your Relationship Easy

I think the most awkward conversations all people in new relationships have is determining where they stand with each other. Are you monogamous with them? Are you still seeing other people? Talking to someone about your relationship is not only nerve-racking, it’s also terrifying.

You never know what they’ll say. You’ll never know how they feel about where things are going. But you can’t ignore the issue, either. You have to talk about them because if you don’t, you may find out they’re seeing other people while you’re exclusive to them. Save yourself some heartache and just have the talk with them.

Just like any other skill, it takes time to become comfortable talking about your relationship and opening up with someone. It’s difficult to put your feelings on the line, but it’s necessary if you want to maintain a healthy relationship with that person.

Therefore, in order to determine the relationship, you have to follow a few simple steps. These tips will make it much easier to talk to someone about the status of your relationship. They’ll also help make sure you’re on the same page.

# Wait until it feels like you’re in an actual relationship

When you’ve only been on one date with someone and don’t know them very well, pulling out a bunch of questions about whether or not you’re in a relationship is a terrible idea. You’re basically jumping to conclusions.

You need to give yourself and them the opportunity to see if a relationship can be a reality between the two of you. If you feel as though you’re in a relationship with them and you have fallen into a routine with one another, then it’s time for the talk.

# Drop hints here and there

Sometimes people don’t know if you even want to be in a committed relationship, so you have to drop them hints to get their gears turning. Ask them to do something in the future. Talk about them being your “plus one” to a big event.

Doing these things plants a seed in their mind and they’ll think more and more about the prospect of an actual relationship with you. This way, when you actually bring up the conversation, it doesn’t seem so unrealistic to them. They won’t be caught so off guard.

# Determine how involved you are in their life

The best way you can see if you’re important enough to them to have the conversation about the nature of your relationship is to see how much they integrate you into their life. Meaning, how much of themselves do they share with you?

Have you met their friends? What about their family? Are you accompanying them to events as their plus one? All of these are signs that they want you in their life as something concrete and not temporary. [Read: Tips for meeting the parents for the first time]

# Set your expectations early on in the relationship

Don’t wait months before telling someone what you’re looking for. When you’re on the very first date, make your intentions clear. Are you looking for a real relationship or are you just testing the waters with a number of different people?

By doing this, talking to someone about your relationship is a lot easier because they should already have an idea as to where you stand. Make sure to do this early enough that it doesn’t seem like you’re ending things, but late enough that it feels necessary.

# Don’t drink beforehand

I know alcohol can make your nerves steadier, but it can also inhibit your ability to communicate effectively. You may also say things when you’re intoxicated that can come across in a negative way to them.

So skip the alcohol. Just remember to take deep breaths if you’re particularly nervous and remember that they’re with you for a reason. They must like you.

# Be as casual as possible

Talking to someone about your relationship can be made much simpler if you don’t make it a huge deal. If you’re dramatic about it and make it seem like the most important thing you’ve ever talked about, it can send them into a fit of hysterics.

They’ll get nervous, they won’t know how to react, and it can be really uncomfortable. If you keep it casual and just mention it in passing, they’ll be more likely to tell you how the really feel.