6 Tips To Save Your Relationship From Failing

Who said healthy relationships do not go through rifts? Or couples do not have differences of opinion? Who said couples in “good” relationships do not have disagreements? Nobody. No one said any of the above. It is merely what people believe to be the truth about relationships. But in all honesty, they cannot be any farther from the truth.

Millions of couples clash and go through the dreaded question of how to save a relationship now and then. Again, who said relationships cannot be saved? Because if there is no room for disagreements and arguments in a relationship, would there be any sailing relationship in the world? The answer is clearly obvious.

Do not be quick to call it quits, you might regret it later. In order to save a relationship, you can try the following and see where it heads. All these are important for any relationship to work and not just any relationship that is on the verge of a breakup.

# Work On Yourself

Do you love yourself? If you love yourself enough, half the problems that once got you frustrated will not matter to you anymore. Because certain frustrations your partner causes comes from insecurities.

# Communicate To Understand

Communication can save any relationship. You always have to talk about the elephant in the room. But communication without comprehension is basically like talking to a wall. The words you are saying will keep coming back at you after hitting the wall.

If you refuse to understand your partner when they try to communicate, you will always be going in a pointless circle. Actively listen to each other. Listen, not to only say something back in return, but listen to only understand. When you respond, speak in a calm voice instead of shouting. Especially when your partner is trying to explain their reasoning.

# Hone Radical Transparency

Every couple should adopt the communication style of being brutally honest in their relationships. Your partner is human. No matter how well you have known each other, they do not necessarily need to understand you wholly all the time. You need to speak out to them about what is bothering you, what are your needs, and what they should do. Sitting and waiting for them to magically understand how your brain works at certain times is not ideal.

All the immature waiting games must be put to an end. Waiting for your partner to catch on without verbally speaking out and later punishing them with silent treatment for not catching on is absolutely unhealthy. In every relationship. Besides, they do have their baggage to carry as well. Set a monthly couple talk time and talk about trust, money, sex, needs, and expectations. You have to work on yourself and be honest about your expectations from them.

# Address The Issues

Here, what is essential for every couple is to not leave any issue unaddressed. Even the small concerns you might consider unimportant and disregard the thought of addressing must be acknowledged. Because a few unimportant issues can make one big important issue. Then again, addressing the small issues does not particularly mean that you have to make a huge deal out of it and scream at each other.

It simply means to let your partner know how you feel about a certain incident or action. Leaving issues unaddressed and keeping your emotions regarding the issues bottled up won’t help in the long run; neither you nor your partner. It will merely create more space for bitterness. Also, you cannot let any external influence affect your relationship unless your relationship is toxic.

# Agree To Disagree

As I said, there is no absolute need for both individuals to agree on everything. Learn how to agree to disagree. There are certain topics both individuals cannot agree on due to the differences I have mentioned above. When that happens, talk to each other and understand the reason behind the disagreement. Again, to know the reason is not to “change your partner” but to understand them better. But certain decisions need agreement from both. In that case, learn to compromise, sacrifice, and change or break the pattern but not your core values and morals.

# Set Ground Rules

Set boundaries and give each other space. Do not let your world revolve around your partner. This is the first rule of any healthy relationship. In the end, you are two individuals and should remain as two. Your hobbies, interests, friends, and family must remain out of the circle of your partners’. Another advice I’d give you is to find an escape route for yourself, something your partner cannot take away from you.

For me, it is reading and writing and I won’t give anyone the power to take that away from me. When you get mad at your partner, you must have something that will hold you to the ground. It could be anything from your hobbies to favorite places to best friends. Similarly, set yourself rules — could be anything from scheduled dates and getaways to coming home at a fixed time to spend time with each other. And the rules apply to both individuals.