6 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Everyone knows at least one person in their lives who can make an exciting pregnancy announcement or any good news seem like an apocalyptic proclamation. You know the type. That aunt or relative or co-worker who, no matter what sunshine you happen to bring into the world, they can seem to tear it down in five seconds flat. This person is what we call a Negative Nancy.

Since life is full of unexpected circumstances, the odds that you will end up stuck at a social gathering with one of these life-leeches is high. For this reason, you’re going to need to learn how to deal with them in an orderly fashion.

# Be on guard against participating in negativity

Negativity is contagious. It’s easy to get caught up in a Negative Nancy’s drama and forget that you have a happy life and a great outlook. Instead of agreeing with what negative point your company is making, try putting a positive spin on the situation!

This may seem tiring after a while, but don’t give up. Not only might your great attitude help cheer up the person in question, it’ll also show them that you don’t accept their negativity.

# Hang out in groups

Sometimes negative people are much easier to deal with when you have a buffer around. Only schedule coffee, hangouts, or movie night when there are other friends joining you. This will lighten the load of making conversation and bearing the negativity.

# Try and be a positive influence

“Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.” – Alphonse Karr

This is an excellent quote to keep in mind when you’re stuck chatting or lunching with a Negative Nancy. Just because they can’t see the good in life doesn’t mean you can’t.

Dealing with negative people can be extremely frustrating and emotionally draining. But remember that you’re not the only person Negative Nancy is being hard on. They are also being hard on themselves. Offer plenty of praise about their good qualities and empathize with their problems – even if you’ve heard them a million times.

# Don’t take things personally

Negative Nancy doesn’t mean to insult every facet of your life. Or hey, maybe they do! They feel fine insulting you, your beliefs, your way of life, and your mate. They get jealous on occasion and might lash out. This is all a part of the game. This is Nancy’s calling card.

If this person insults you, try not to take it personally. They can’t help it, they’re Negative Nancy.

Try to ignore nasty comments. This might help them to see that you don’t take crap from anybody and that his or her comments roll right off your back.

# It’s not always your problem

If you have a Negative Nancy in your life, you may feel compelled to cheer them up. We’re here to tell you that while this is a noble gesture, it is also very likely an impossible task. Negative attitudes are hard to break.

Spread your positive attitude around like sunshine, but don’t over-extend yourself to the point that you come away from every interaction with this person with a migraine. Sometimes it’s best to cut your losses and understand that you need to put yourself first.

# Avoid Negative Nancy like the plague

Or alternatively, be a grown-up. If you’ve tried your best over a long period of time and still can’t seem to shake your friend’s negative attitude, it might be time to reassess your friendship.
What are you getting out of this relationship? True friends give and take, and if your “friend” is all take and no give, it may be time to avoid them like the plague. Or at least limit the amount of time you’re spending with this person.

Instead of dinner and a movie, try a grabbing a quick cup of coffee instead. Pull away slowly and eventually you will have successfully cut off contact without them staging a meltdown.