6 Ways To Hurt A Narcissist

I know that the urge for revenge is really strong, especially if they’ve hurt you or someone you care about. Now, learning how to hurt a narcissist is no easy game. In fact, you run the risk of having it backfire in your face and that’s even messier. But if you’re willing to risk it, then you’re going to need to know how to hurt them.

If you’ve been manipulated emotionally and mentally by someone that acts only out of their self-interest, well, you’ve met a narcissist. Congratulations! You’ve survived their mental torture. Now, you’ve seen the light. They hurt you in more ways than one, and you’re putting your foot down. You’ve had enough.

Naturally, it’s normal to want revenge on them, to make them feel the pain they’ve put you through. But turning the tables and playing them at their own game isn’t as easy as it looks. It ain’t easy, but it’s possible.

# Think about it first

Listen, having revenge against anyone takes a lot of time and effort. Right now, you’re emotional, you want payback which I totally understand. You can’t do this while being a hot mess. Before you take one step further, you need to make sure you’re calm, because if not, you can make some crucial mistakes which won’t benefit you in any way.

# Put feelings to the side

This is super important and why I’m emphasizing this again and again. You need to remove any emotion you had for this person. If this was your partner, you have to drill it into your head that they don’t love you and were just using you for their own benefit. If you’re emotional, you’ll easily fall back into their trap which is what they’re going to try to do.

# Take time to figure them out

Yes, this person is a narcissist but that’s not enough. If you want to know how to hurt a narcissist, you need to learn how they tick, what’s going on in their heads, and where their weaknesses lie. Stop thinking that they’re above you. Instead, see them as who they really are.

This means you’ll need to look at them objectively in order to find out their vulnerabilities and weak spots. Once you find them out, use this information against them.

# Focus on their imperfections

A narcissist is someone obsessed with themselves which means they know their strengths and weaknesses very well. However, this also means that they’re extremely vulnerable and mask their insecurities with extreme confidence.

You were used by them to boost their ego, however, this is the first step in realizing, if done right, how easy they are to crumble. Instead of focusing on complimenting them, focus on their vulnerabilities and flaws without insulting them directly.
# Treat them how they treat you

If you want to make a narcissist feel bad, then dish them a taste of their own medicine. This is the best way to play with their heads. Do exactly what they do to you. If they’re hot and cold with you, be hot and cold with them. If they would ignore you, ignore them. Use the silent treatment as well, distancing yourself away from them, becoming too busy to spend time with them.

# Give them just enough attention

With this being said, you can’t go completely cold, rather, give them just enough attention to keep them around. It’ll drive them nuts as they’ll want validation from you, but don’t give them everything. Now, don’t expect them to change because they won’t as they’ll always think they’re right.