6 Ways To Not Get Cheated On Ever Again

Relationships can make you feel like you’re on cloud 9, and then there are relationships that involve cheating. These make you feel as if your heart got tossed into a big, black abyss. If you know what that’s like, then you definitely wouldn’t want to go through the whole ordeal again… Unless you’re some sort of glutton for punishment.

We all want a good relationship. The more bad ones you experience, the harder it gets to believe in the good ones. But they do exist. Sure, you might endure heartbreak, or get cheated on, but that doesn’t mean you’re not going to find someone who can piece your heart back together because you most definitely can.

Sometimes, we just need a little help and a different opinion when it comes to relationships. Why do you think so many people read relationship advice articles? If you are currently avoiding the dating scene because you’re afraid of being cheated on again, I’m here to help you become a believer in love once more.

# Trust your gut

Although it may seem silly, most people usually know the truth, even if they don’t want to accept it. If you have ever been cheated on, you know exactly what I’m talking about. But sometimes, people choose to look the other way, ignoring all the signs right in front of them.

One way to avoid the heartbreak that comes with cheating is to trust your gut and those feelings you can’t shake off. If you keep thinking the worst when it comes to your partner, and the feelings aren’t going away, your instincts might be on to something. Trust yourself above all else.

# Don’t be so quick to date

The thrill of falling fast and hard for someone new is as exciting as dating gets. It’s a warm, fuzzy feeling when you find yourself thinking you’re in love with the one that’s perfect for you. But the reality is that you can’t truly know someone in a week, in a month, not even necessarily in a year. Sometimes, you find out you never really knew them in the first place.

If you have been cheated on by someone that you fell hard and fast for, one way to not make the same mistake again is by taking things a little slower. For starters, don’t rush into a relationship immediately just because you start having those same warm and fuzzy feelings. What’s the hurry? Fools really do rush in!

By slowing down the love train a little, you allow yourself time to get to know someone better. You might find out you like them even more as you continue to get to know them, or maybe you find out things that you really don’t like. And if that’s the case, you’ve saved yourself from another failed relationship.

# Quit the games

Playing games is the opposite of honesty, and if it’s honesty that you want from your partner, you should learn to give as much as you want to take. When you don’t play games, you show maturity, and therefore, you are taken more seriously. The whole “player” shtick will only work if you’re just in it for fun and games, but if you want a relationship, it’s time to drop the games.

# Communicate

If you don’t communicate how you feel, what you want, or what you expect, then how do you expect anyone to understand you and fix whatever it is they have done to upset you in the first place? No matter how many times you read your horoscope or visit a physic, you’re probably not going to end up with a person who can literally read your mind.

The more you talk to your partner about how you feel, the more likely they’ll be able to understand you and empathize with you. They’ll know what you want and what you can offer, and this allows them to act according to what they think is best for your relationship. And if your partner understands the relationship better thanks to better communication lines, they’re less likely to intentionally hurt you by cheating.

# Trust your partner

Just because you’ve been cheated on before, doesn’t mean that every potential partner in the entire world is a cheater and out to hurt you. Would you like it if every person you dated assumed you were a gold digger, just because you share some traits with a gold digger they dated before? No, you wouldn’t like that.

Unless someone gives you a reason not to trust them, trust them! It’s really that simple. You can’t control people and what they do, but, despite this extremely cynical world we live in, you can always hope that giving someone your trust makes them realize that it’s for keeps, and that they shouldn’t do anything to shatter it.

# Stop assuming the worst

The saying is true, “never assume anything because you end up making an ass out of ‘u’ and ‘me.'” Pessimism is exhausting, honestly. If we all went around on a daily basis worrying about what could go wrong instead of enjoying all the great things that actually do happen, what would be the point of waking up every day?

Negativity like this may make you think that you’re just bracing yourself for the worst possible scenario, but in reality, you’re just setting yourself up for failure. Who would want to date someone who always thinks of how things can go horribly wrong? Once your partner feels the gloom of your pessimism seeping into the relationship, then it won’t be a huge surprise if they try to find someone who focuses more on the bright side.