7 Aromantic Myths Debunked

An aromantic is someone who feels no desire to be in a romantic relationship. These people are perfectly happy in being just friends with people and only having platonic relationships.

Furthermore, they don’t even want a romantic relationship. For those of us who desire being in a relationship and having someone special in our lives, this can be a hard thing for us to understand. However, an aromantic just doesn’t want to be romantically involved with someone. They have no need for it.

Before we get into how being an aromantic changes your love life, we first have to bring some truth to what aromantics really go through. There are many myths flying around that give people the wrong idea about aromantics, and I’m here to set them straight.

# They don’t want families

This is a HUGE myth about aromantics that has to be debunked right now. Just because someone doesn’t desire a romantic relationship with someone doesn’t mean they don’t want to settle down and have a family with someone. You don’t need romantic love to love a child.

# They don’t want a life partner

This is related to the above myth and is completely false. While SOME aromantics don’t really care to find a life partner, some really do want to find someone to build a life and settle down with.

This is the person they’ll usually end up having kids with, getting married to, and living out a relatively normal relationship. You don’t need to have romantic feelings to do this.

# All aromantics are asexuals

Asexuality and being aromantic aren’t related at all. Aromantics don’t have romantic feelings, but they still have sexual desires. On the other hand, asexuals don’t have any sexual feelings toward anybody, but they still feel romantic love. The pairing of the two is sometimes seen, but not always.

# They don’t want physical affection

You don’t have to feel romantically for someone in order to want them to hug you and show you physical affection. Aromantics like to cuddle just as much as anyone else! Their cuddling, however, is not synonymous with romantic feelings.

# Aromantics are just commitment-phobes

*Insert eye roll here* This is something many people will say when they don’t believe aromanticism is a real thing. They use this as a means to justify why someone wouldn’t want to feel romantic love, when in reality, aromantics can commit, they just don’t get romantic.

# They don’t have many feelings at all

People who think of an aromantic can sometimes think that because they don’t love romantically, they are heartless beings. That’s completely false. They have just as many feelings as us. They just don’t have a certain one that is seen in other people.

# They can’t love

Aromantics love just as much as anyone else. They just do so in a different way. They love their family and their friends with all their heart. However, they just don’t fall in love with people in a romantic way.