7 Reasons Why Guys Don't Approach You

Have you ever experienced a time when you think you’ve been in the right place at the right time, and saw a great guy, and yet nothing happens between the two of you?

And has this happened more than a few times?You may assume you’re friendly and approachable, but without realizing it yourself, you may be dropping cues that push away any guy who wants to talk to you! He’s there and you’re there. The smell of something new and exciting is in the air, yet nothing’s happening, and you have no idea why. The sad truth is, you might be sabotaging yourself without knowing it.

Here are the 7 most common mistakes most women make when it comes to making themselves appear approachable.

# You’re always on your phone/tablet/laptop

Few things scream “stay away!” like constantly having your phone in your hands. It doesn’t matter if you are talking, texting or surfing the net, it is as if you’ve hung a big do-not-disturb sign over your forehead. The same goes for your laptop or basically any device that you are completely swallowed up by.

The only somewhat acceptable exception is if you are reading an ebook or an article truly worthy of your undivided attention. Believe it or not, this will show on your face, in your posture and the general impression you make on people, giving you a more thoughtful and intelligent look.

If you are indeed going to read a book, keep in mind that a paperback is by far the better icebreaker. It carries a certain dose of romance and serenity with it that rarely goes unnoticed.

# You don’t make eye contact

You can’t really blame a man for not coming over to talk to you, if you couldn’t be bothered to even look at him now and then. We wouldn’t go as far as to use the “eyes are the window to the soul” cliché, but we will resort to another one – eye contact is how you throw your hat in the ring.

A quick, shy glance or a long, intent look, both combined with a warm smile is how you let a guy know you’re interested.

If you aren’t sure how long you need to keep your gaze locked with that candy of a man, without it becoming creepy or turning into a staring contest, you can use this simple tip – stare long enough to notice the color of his eyes. Then turn away and glance at something else. Slowly. You don’t want to do this with a fast motion as it makes you resemble a scared animal. And you are not. You are a seductive, confident woman who knows how to get what she wants.

# You are being too easy

There is nothing wrong with going out and looking for a good time. We’ll say it again, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to have fun, just as long as you know the difference between being a cheerful flirt and an easy picking.

We don’t mean to sound like your grandma and give you a lecture on how men won’t respect you when you’re too easy. But the truth is, if you throw yourself at guys all over the place, you’ll only end up looking desperate. And girls who appear desperate and easy don’t get the guy they really want.

The great guys that leave you drooling and biting your lip, they like a conquest. Not necessarily having to fight a dragon for the right to kiss the princess, but at least a little something to tickle their male ego and make them feel like they earned it, and beat the rest of the competition to it.

# You aren’t giving him a chance to catch you alone

So you’re out with a bunch of your friends, dressed to kill, laughing, dancing, and having a blast. To add to all the excitement, there’s this cute guy you think is eyeing you. Ah, what a night! But why is he not coming over? By now you’re sure you’ve caught his attention and it’s plain as day that he’s interested in you. What the H?

You know how they say there’s safety in numbers? When it comes to flirting, the only safety you gain by never separating from the group is an almost perfect firewall between you and any men that want to talk to you.

Give the poor guy a chance to catch you alone. Go to the bar and get a drink, step outside for a breath of fresh air or come up with some other excuse to wander away from your friends for a minute. He’ll know that’s his window and take it. If he doesn’t, you can bet your sweet, sweet smile someone else will.

# You hang out with other guys

This is a roadblock for men who want to approach you, not because it’s a bad thing, but because most men don’t want to step on anyone’s turf. Consider it the Bro Code if you will, but territories are territories. And almost all men are more likely to stay away from a woman who’s sitting with another man, even if she makes eye contact often.

If this is the case, you will need to be the one taking action. There’s a guy you like and you want to see if there’s a potential for chemistry? Be proactive and go for it. Walk your butt over to him and say ‘hi’. Find a clever way to tell him he’s not in a competition and that you’re just hanging out with a friend.