7 Signs Of A Controlling Girlfriend To Watch Out For

Often, we place the idea of controlling firmly in the camp of guys. Girls are just as able to control within a relationship. We might not hear about it as much, but let’s be honest, any kind of signs of a controlling girlfriend or boyfriend isn’t a good thing.

There is a big difference between a girl who can be firmly labelled as controlling and a girl simply fighting for her relationship because her partner is treating her badly, and she isn’t quite ready to let go.

With that being said, control is not a good thing in a relationship. You both need to be free to do what you need to do while enjoying your time together. Trust is vital, and when you’re trying to control someone’s actions, you’re not showing that you trust them too much

# Whenever you argue, you’re always the one who gets the blame

If you argue, which everyone does occasionally, do you always end up being the one who has the blame firmly at their feet, even though it’s not always your fault at all? Does she always deflect her blame onto you and make herself look like a relationship angel?

This is certainly one sign of a controlling girlfriend, as well as an increase in arguments. Simply because she is trying to pull down your self esteem by placing more blame at your feet.

# She is quickly angered when she doesn’t get her own way

A controlling person can easily become angry when they don’t get their own way, so if your girlfriend can fly off the handle pretty quickly, that’s a surefire sign to be aware of. She’s likely to use threats as a manipulation tactic too, trying to get you to do what she wants in a more effective way.

# When she does something well, you have to know about it

A controlling person loves praise, so when she does something well, e.g. she cooks a meal, she’s likely to want a lot of praise for it. This exaggeration is one of the clearest signs of a controlling girlfriend. She is also likely to want everyone around you, e.g.mutual friends, to know how wonderful a girlfriend she is.

# Nothing you do is ever good enough

No matter what you do, she is never satisfied and always wants you to do more. By doing this, she’s making you feel like what you do isn’t good enough for her, when in reality it’s simply unrealistic demands. Over time you will believe all of this and think that perhaps you’re not good enough after all. Of course, the truth is that you are.

# She questions everything you do

The bottom line? A controlling girlfriend has low self-confidence, resulting in her constantly questioning what you’re doing. Her lack of trust isn’t because of anything you’ve done, it’s because she doesn’t have the confidence in herself.

# She puts you down

She often pulls you down and makes you feel humiliated. She might have a slightly underhanded nickname for you or question the things you do, with a look on her face that says what you’re doing is clearly stupid. This can drag your self-confidence down to the same level as hers.

# She uses sex as a tool for manipulation

Girls know how important sex is to a guy. As a result, she’s likely to use that against you as a control technique. This may not be the same issue in same sex relationships, women aren’t quite so “out there” about their need for sex. However, it does vary from person to person. If she withholds sex or manipulates you with sex, it’s a sign of a controlling girlfriend.