7 Signs Of Being In A Bad Relationship

When a couple gets married, everyone wishes that it lasts for eternity. Vows and oaths are taken to be man and wife forever and everything seems like a bed of roses. But the real test starts after the couple starts living together as husband and wife. For couples who have known each other for quite long too, marriage can be a totally different affair. Expectations, behaviors, priorities change which result in differences of opinions, fights or the end of love. It is very important to continue to love each other to stay happily married. In the presence of love, one spouse tries to change and adjust oneself to the likes of the other spouse.

But at times, instead of repeated trials and compromises, one or both spouses are unhappy in the marriage. While some openly express their views and take decisions regarding the future of the marriage, for some deciding to end a bad marriage could be a very tough decision. It could be due to a number of reasons like financial dependence, fear of what the society would say, future of the kids, for the kid's sake and for the fear of left alone and lonely in life. But what one needs to understand is that no matter however big the reason, nothing could or should compel one to remain in a bad marriage. Some spouses are so caught up in the humdrums of life that they fail to realize or analyze signs that show that they are in a bad marriage. They negate the obvious telltale signs of a bad marriage and continue to show up cheerful and happy for the sake of the family, kids and society. But surviving a bad marriage can take a toll on one’s health leading to anxiety, depression and a feeling of worthlessness.

# Less or no sex is a sign of a bad marriage

Sex is an important part of any marriage and should not be overlooked. Physical intimacy could mean a hug and a kiss and does not always mean intercourse. For any married couple, to display emotion physically seems important until unless mutually decided. If one spouse does not feel like having sex anymore but the other wants it, then its very unfair for the one who feels deprived. Lack of interest in sex is one of the major causes of failing marriages or extra-marital affairs.

# Minimum conversations are signs of a bad marriage

There was once a time when phone conversations with your partner would continue for hours together and sometimes throughout the night. But all this seems like a distant memory now as you realize that you hardly have any conversations with each other. You only talk about important matters like school, finances, kids, and food. Gone are the days when sweet nothings were murmured into each other's ears and when every little feeling was discussed at length with your spouse.

If your marriage has hit this stage, then it's an obvious indication of some real trouble. You or your spouse hardly discuss anything with each other. Rudimentary conversations about important chores to be done and basic necessities are only done and this is enough to send some alarm bells to your mind to retrospect about your marriage. Take advice from some common friends and try to sort out the matter with your husband. Marriage is all about sharing your entire being with your partner and lack of communication is a red flag for sure.

# A feeling of loneliness in your spouse's company is a sign that your in a bad marriage

You are with your spouse but your mind is elsewhere. Either you think about other things which seem important to you or you can think of nothing that you can do with your spouse. This is a very big indication that your marriage is going bad. You no longer feel like soul mates and there is an increasing list of things and thoughts which you do not share anymore with each other.

This feeling could be mutual or it could be one-sided only but in both ways, it means that you might have to let go of the bond else life could get really unhappy with each other resulting in serious complications. You could be in the same room, doing your thing while your spouse does his thing. While its normal in day-to-day life to continue with each other's tasks but its also important to feel connected. Two people can be entirely different and engaged in entirely different tasks and hobbies but they feel connected with each other, take interest in each other's works and tasks. This obviously does not mean that you do not give your spouse space at all. A marriage can be standing on the rocks if the 'giving space' to each other quotient has risen beyond repair.

# Listen to your inner voice

Your gut feeling reminds you often of something going amiss in your married relationship. But you choose to ignore it for the sake of avoiding fights, clashes or society. You are too scared to be left alone after a divorce. You maybe ignoring the signs of an unhappy marriage because you may be financially dependent or for the sake of your kids. You do not want to let go because it makes you feel like a loser. But it's not easy to survive like a martyr forever. If the marriage is making you unhappy, disrespected, deprived, lonely and sad then continuing to stay in it will eventually take a toll on your health. You might land up with anxiety, depression and a total loss of self-confidence and self-respect. You have accepted it within yourself that the marriage is over but you need courage to tell your spouse. Remember, everyone has a right to be happy.

# Growing distance is a sign of a bad marriage

You may be caught up in the mundane mediocrities of life but happy couples feel the need to spend quality time with each other. They might be very busy with their lives but an hour or so every day is enough for them to connect with each other and stay happily together. But if you realize that off late you and your spouse and have not spent any quality time with each other and you are feeling more and more disconnected with him, then the marriage has clearly fallen apart in terms of bonds and is only thriving for the sake of some mutually decided aspects like kids or society. Every couple goes through some rough patches, but if the rough phase lingers for more than 2 years then its a clear sign that the marriage is getting worse from bad.

Even long distance marriages survive but at times marriages within 4 walls also fail. Its just a matter of feelings, priorities and connection. While giving space to each other is important, make sure 'the space' does not space out your feelings and need for each other. A happily married couple feel the urge or need to share their daily work or small happenings with each other. A marriage in which a couple do not share each other's lives is clearly an empty marriage in which either both or one of the spouses is unhappy.

# No more fights are a sign of a bad marriage

All couples fight and it is considered very healthy to fight. After all you only fight with people whom you consider your own. No one would go and fight with a stranger on the street no matter however intolerable he/she is. You would just choose to ignore. But if you feel fighting will not bring any result with your spouse then there is something wrong for sure. Normally after a fight, one or the other person gives in to the other person's demands.

# You dream of a life without your spouse in a bad marriage

For most happily married people, even to think of a life without their partners can be very disturbing. But if you have reached a stage in your married when you often fantasize about a life without your spouse, then it should ring some warning bells in your mind. This however evokes only when you have totally and completely lost a single trace of love or emotion for your spouse. Life with your spouse seems like a burden to you and you dislike or prevent doing things together. Its a clear sign of a bad marriage and if you wish to give the marriage another chance, then its time to take advice from a marriage counselor to help you both sort out your problems.