7 Signs You Are Being Obsessed With Someone

Signs of obsession can be something along the lines of being unable to perform normal daily tasks due to constant thoughts about someone. Feel depressed, enraged, or suicidal in extreme cases, when the person of interest doesn’t respond as intended. They might not like the partner spending time with his/her family or close friends they knew before the relationship.

To the person who can’t see anything but the person they think they’re in love with, these signs are most probably going to go unnoticed. That’s exactly why it’s so important to take a look at 7 warning signs that tell either you are obsessed with someone, or someone is obsessed with you.

# Incessant stalking

To know more about your crush – you check out his/her Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and oh, so many other social media apps. You might even talk about him/her to your mutual friends. But once such activities take up the better part of your day, you’re on the cusp of being obsessed.

# Your friends are his/hers

The cyber stalking in this dynamic leads you to know all about the other person’s friends and you may befriend them on their social media handles. Though it may not look like one of the signs of being obsessed with someone at first glance, the deeper a person gets into it, the creepier it gets.

The state of being obsessed with someone makes you want to be the only person they communicate with. By befriending all their friends and hence making sure you’re at least a part of the conversation there or even in charge of it, you’re basically trying to infiltrate this person’s life completely.

# Friends of the opposite gender are disliked

This is one of the major symptoms of being obsessed with someone to the point of wanting to control their actions. You may feel threatened by every person of the opposite gender in your person’s life. It can get exhausting, very quickly. You may want to control the people they meet and the time they spend with friends of the opposite gender, all because of an obsession.

One of the most common signs of an obsessed man is feeling extensively threatened by every male friend his partner may have. Healthy jealousy is normal and expected but when he doesn’t let his partner meet friends of the opposite gender because he’s threatened, it’s a huge cause for concern.

# Their happiness becomes your priority

Sure, making each other happy is a basic essential in a relationship, but in this dynamic, every small thing is evaluated in detail to ascertain whether it made you happy or not. And, if not, mending things and focusing on your happiness becomes a primary vocation. Never would you have thought that this would be a sign of obsessing with someone, right?

# Didn’t keep posted about your whereabouts

Obsessive individuals have a controlling temperament. This makes them feel responsible for every decision or situation of that relationship. Any uncertainty creates a sense of loss of this control and can lead to verbal or physical abuse. The urge to know about every moment and every thought/action of the partner makes them lose focus of their own life and they make the partner their focus of life, wherein suffocating the relationship for both.

# Constant validation and reassurance needed

People with a dependent personality disorder may also show signs of obsessive and clingy behavior. This behavior arises from the fear of losing out or feeling insecure around others who are close to the partner. They need constant reassurance like compliments and “I love you”, and a portrayal of having a perfect relationship. To polish this off, such individuals can stage helpless and vulnerable personalities to manipulate the partner.

# Dislikes your plans with your friends

They would want to be included in the plans that you are making with whoever – be it an old school friend, a bunch of office colleagues or just catching up with an acquaintance. They’d feel left out if such plans materialize and they are left behind to do their own thing. As a result, they’ll not only dislike the plans, they may forcefully include themselves in them. In cases where there is bipolar obsession with a person, there may even be emotional or physical abuse involved.