7 Signs Your Partner Is Getting Intimate With Someone Else

A committed relationship or marriage comes with the promise of loyalty and is built on the foundations of trust, transparency and honesty. Unless you’re in a non-monogamous relationship, the expectation is that your partner will remain faithful to you as long as you’re together. Yet we live in a world where cheating, heartbreak and adultery are all too common. When a person you love deeply and know so closely strays, there are bound to be warning signs of cheating. In fact, there can be as many as 7 signs your partner is sleeping with someone else.

At first, these signs may manifest as a gut feeling that your partner is betraying your trust. You may find yourself battling the ominous question, “Is my partner sleeping with someone else?” Don’t be too quick to dismiss these fears or suspicions; there is a good chance that this intuition could be a result of the subtle changes in your partner’s behavior that your mind is picking up on. While infidelity is an issue as old as time itself, the incidence of cheating in marriages and committed relationships has certainly seen a spate in recent times.

# An unusually busy schedule

This could be one of the clues that your partner is having an extramarital affair. If your husband is seeing someone else or your wife/partner has been sleeping with someone else, they’d need to carve out the time for clandestine meetings with the other person in their life. If your partner has always prioritized spending time with you but, of late, you find them acting busy, you have good reason to wonder, “Is my partner sleeping with someone else?”

Sudden work trips, weekend getaways with friends, overtime at the office, and working on presentations late nights are all perfect, but predictable, excuses to make time for illicit liaisons. On top of that, if you find that your partner shows no excitement, joy or passion when they see you after long periods of time, it’s a signal that they could be getting their share of affection and sexual satisfaction from somewhere else. How to know if your husband has slept with someone else or if your wife has been having an affair? A physical and emotional distance could be the first indicator of their transgressions.

# Frequent nights out

For Claire, a sudden spike in her husband’s social life was a dead giveaway that he was cheating on her. “For nearly six months, I had been wrestling with the dilemma, “Is my partner sleeping with someone else?” I couldn’t put a finger on what was bringing on this doubt but I couldn’t shake it off. Then, over the last couple of months, he started going out frequently. He’d even have plans on weeknights. That’s when I knew without the shadow of a doubt that there was someone else in his life.

# Your partner has been hiding things

Secrecy is one of the most telling of the 15 signs your partner is sleeping with someone else. If your partner is hiding things, lying, and being secretive or not talking much, it could well be because they’re trying to cover their tracks. Unless there is a birthday or an anniversary around the corner and they’re planning a surprise for you, them keeping you in the dark about things, no matter how big or small, is not justified.

If your husband is seeing someone else or your wife is cheating on you, they may no longer feel the need to confide in you about things they normally did share with you. This is more worrying than your partner simply sleeping with someone else because it indicates that their emotional needs are also being taken care of in the other relationship, and that can be hard to recover from.

# Your partner is in a relationship with their phone

In this day and age when online affairs are becoming more and more rampant – even more prevalent than real-life instances of cheating – a change in phone usage patterns could be one of the signs that your husband has another woman in his life or your wife another man in hers. If your partner is suddenly addicted to their phone, you constantly find them texting and they’ve become oddly protective of their devices, it could mean that they may be using it to stay connected with their affair partner even when they’re with you.

While secretly checking your partner’s phone is a gross violation of their privacy, as they say, desperate times call for desperate measures. You could consider checking their messages and call history for concrete evidence of cheating. Don’t get your hopes up though; if your partner is smart, they may be sanitizing their phone regularly, wiping it clean of any traces of their interaction with their affair partner.

# A marked change in demeanor

Spring in their step. A whistle on their lips. All smiles and blushes. When you look at your partner, it almost feels like love is in the air. Well, it may well be, just not with you. If you notice that your partner is smiling too much or blushing after returning home from a ‘late-night work meeting’ or answering a phone call ‘from the boss’, it could be among the physical signs he is sleeping with someone else or she is getting some action on the side.

Ask your partner what they’re so happy about and you may find them awash with a sense of nervousness instantly. They may not be able to give you definite answers because you’re the one person they can’t share the reason for their happiness with. If he is sleeping with someone else or she has someone else in her life besides you, he/she may come home in a jovial mood and you may catch them humming a song or two.

# Talking on the phone privately

How to know if your husband has slept with someone else or if your wife is having an affair? Again, we’d like to turn your attention to the way your partner handles their phone around you. You may notice that they step away from you to make certain phone calls in private and suddenly hang up if you walk into the room. If this has been a pattern of late, you don’t even need to look for 15 signs your partner is sleeping with someone else, just this one is enough of a red flag.

A word of caution though: a one-off incident where your partner steps out to make a phone call doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re cheating on you. They could well do so if they know they’re going to have an unpleasant conversation with their boss or a coworker, if they’re planning a surprise for you, or if they’re dealing with an issue they don’t want to prematurely worry you about. However, if stepping out to answer/make calls has been a pattern and not an exception, then you can say with a fair degree of certainty that there is a third in your equation.

# Smelling different

One of the most telling physical signs he is sleeping with someone else or she is having sex outside the relationship is that your partner comes smelling fresh as a daisy after a long day at work. Perhaps, they have come home a few hours later than usual and yet seem refreshed and rejuvenated.

After a day at work, shouldn’t your partner be sweaty and tired? Well, if instead, it seems like they’ve come home to you fresh out of a bath, there is a chance that they were with someone and took a bath to get the scent of the other person off. If your husband has been sleeping around or your wife is having an affair, he/she would surely be very vigilant to avoid getting caught. Be cautious if you smell a new fragrance of soap/shampoo or even perfume on them. You have all the right to question them in this case.