7 Things To Consider If You Want To Figure Out Whether A Drunk Is Cheating

If you drink there is a good chance you’ve shared a drunk kiss with someone at some point. At the moment, it may have felt right, or perhaps you weren’t even really thinking about it.

But, you woke up the next day and you feel differently. Maybe you regret it or maybe you wish it had happened when you weren’t drunk. You don’t know how the other person feels about it or if they even remember.

Okay, let’s get back to the scenario where you are in a committed relationship but you drunk kiss someone else or your partner does it. Is this considered cheating? Should you feel guilty if you did that? And you might also wonder if you should forgive your partner if they drunk kissed someone else.

# Level of commitment to your partner

Whether or not the drunk kiss was cheating has a lot to do with your level of commitment. If you just started dating and aren’t sure if you’re exclusive, then it’s not cheating. However, if you are committed or even married, then yes, it would be considered cheating. If the two of you are on a break for some reason, then the rules for that situation must be negotiated between the two of you.

# How drunk were you or your partner was

As we said above, being drunk isn’t an excuse to not take personal responsibility for your behavior. However, you have to admit that the more drunk you get, the less able you are to make good decisions. So, if you or your partner was black-out drunk and doesn’t remember, that would be a bit more forgivable than if they were only tipsy and knew exactly what they were doing.

# The length of the kiss

What was the kiss like? If it was just a quick peck on the lips, that’s not as big of a deal as if it was an hours-long make-out session. If the kiss didn’t involve the tongue, sexual touching, or laying horizontal, maybe it’s not as bad as if it was.

# The relationship between the two drunk kissers

For some people, if a drunk kiss happened between strangers, then it’s not as serious as if it happened between two people who know each other really well. If it was a stranger, you will probably never see them again. But if it’s between two people who have lingering feelings for each other – or a huge crush – then that’s a different story.

# Who made the first move?

Whether the person was on the giving or receiving end of the kiss might make a difference as to whether or not it was cheating. If you or your partner were the ones who initiated the kiss, that’s a little worse than if you weren’t. At least it wasn’t your idea.

# Has it happened before?

If this is a one-time happening, then that is better than if it’s an ongoing problem. If the latter is true, then you have a problem on your hands in the form of serial cheating that can lead to more than just kissing.

# Level of trust between the two of you

How strong the committed relationship also is a determining factor. If you have been together for a long time and have strong trust between the two of you, then maybe it can be forgiven relatively easily. But if there is a past of betrayal and not being loyal, then that is not good.