7 Tips For Learning How To Forgive Someone

Once Buddha said, "Holding on to resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." It might sound wrong or stuipd to some, but trust me this is actually true. Holding onto your anger is the best you can do to others. Punishing others will do good to them or to you.

I don’t have a magic wand that I can hand you for you to suddenly become a master at forgiveness like Mother Teresa. But, I do have some tips for how to forgive someone that will definitely help you move on and find happiness again.

# Think of them as a child

When a child does something wrong, we usually have the attitude of, "Well, I don’t like it, but they’re still learning so they’re doing the best they can."

I hate to break it to you, but some adults aren’t very wise or mature. So, they are probably performing on the level of a child. That’s why you should think of them as someone who doesn’t know any better. That doesn’t mean you have to condone the negative behavior, however.

# Think of the grand scheme of things

Are you angry because your live-in love never does the laundry? Or your best friend didn’t call you the moment she read your Facebook status update? Get over

Stuff like that is not a big deal in the greater scheme of life. Talk to them, and move past it. Holding on to anger over petty things doesn’t help anyone – especially you.

# Talk to them

Some people just fester in silence. What good does that do? Maybe the person who you’re angry with doesn’t even know they did something wrong! So, you have to talk to them about it. And I don’t mean fight… I mean TALK. Talk rationally. Only then can you come to some sort of resolution. It’s the first step in learning how to forgive someone.

# Take responsibility for your part

I know you don’t want to hear it, but sometimes, it’s not entirely the other person’s fault. Many times, we had a part to play. So, do some self-reflection and be mature enough to admit if you did or said something that contributed to this situation.

# Be kind

When people are angry, it’s difficult for them to be kind. But if you have everyone’s best interest in mind, and you want to let go of the resentment, then speak and act kindly to the person who wronged you. “An eye for an eye” is just bull. It never solves anything. So, put on your kindness cap and approach the situation with love.

# Think good thoughts

When we’re so caught up in anger and resentment, sometimes it’s hard to think of anything good. But, you need to try. The future isn’t a disaster. Things will get better. Be an optimist and things will turn out a whole lot better that way.

# Don’t take it personally

When learning how to forgive someone, this is vital. Too often, we think that everything that everyone else does is on purpose. Or that they went through some long, drawn-out thought process that included plotting and planning strategies for how to hurt you.