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7 Tips How Not To Get A Girl To Like You
By: Kratika Tue, 07 Sept 2021 2:20:22
Figuring out how to get a girl to like you does not have to be such hard work. It isn’t about wooing her or impressing her but actually getting to know her. When you want a girl to like you, it’s because you like her. Show her that. Show her you appreciate her as a person.
What girls want from a guy is to be seen and understood. It isn’t about telling her she’s pretty, buying her jewelry, or even being a traditional gentleman. Ensuring you’re being genuine about your intentions is most important.There are a lot of things you can do to get a girl to like you, but there are also things you should never do to get a girl to like you. These things are manipulative, predatory, or just plain rude.
So, here are some things you most certainly want to avoid.
# Do not disregard consent
This may be the most important thing on this list. Never disregard consent. Whether you are putting her hair behind her ear or trying to kiss her, make sure it is okay with her first. If she says no or doesn’t say yes, it means no.
Do not assume she’s playing hard to get or trying to be coy. If she isn’t interested, accept it. It is one thing to flirt without knowing for sure if she’s interested. It is another thing to make a move that makes her uncomfortable.
# Do not comment on her body
It may seem like a compliment to tell her you love her curves, but you don’t know how she feels about her body so keep your compliments away from there. You can say she is fit, or that she looks amazing in an outfit. You can tell her she’s beautiful, but avoid commenting on her weight or size.
# Do not judge her food choices
Whether she is eating a salad or a platter of fries, do not judge her on her choices. She is doing what feels right for her, for her own reasons. You may think telling her she can eat more than a salad and still look great is a compliment, but, trust me, it is not.
# Do not comment on her dating history
Whether she went through a tough breakup or has a colorful dating history, it isn’t your place to comment on that. Don’t say, ‘well, you’ve dated everyone else in the office’ or ‘isn’t seeing me better than being single?’. These are entirely rude and manipulative ways to get a girl to go out with you.
# Do not get someone else to talk you up
If you like this girl, you need to make some face time. Actually, talk to her. Getting a friend or coworker to talk you up or put the idea in her head is a middle school move and only shows your lack of confidence.
# Do not stare
I know TV makes staring into her eyes seem romantic and although eye contact is good when you’re talking, just staring at her without saying anything is super creepy. Don’t do it. she’ll think you’re sleeping with your eyes open or being a weirdo. If you think she is gorgeous, just tell her.
# Do not pester her
If you like her, get to know her at a normal pace. Don’t constantly come by her place, text her, or call her. This will only be overkill. And by all means, don’t ask if you’re bothering her or apologize for annoying her. This is probably one of the least attractive things a guy can do.