7 Tips To Ask A Guy On A Date

Waiting for a guy to ask you out not only requires patience, but it is also ridiculously frustrating. Wondering when he will finally do it, how he will, and how much longer you have to wait is not something you should have to put up with. Which is why you need to know how to ask a guy on a date!

Don’t sit around and wait for him to make the first move when you are just as capable of asking him out. I know, it can be intimidating to put yourself out there, but taking the lead shows confidence. If you’ve never asked a guy out before you may need a few helpful hints, but you’ll be golden in no time.

# Make sure he is single

If you have more guts than I do, go right into it and just ask him right out. But it lowers your risk for rejection if you get this information prior. Whether you ask his friends or him, be sure he is single so you aren’t stepping on anyone toes.

Also I’m sure you’ve turned a guy’s proposal down before because you were in a relationship and saw the disappointed look on his face. You don’t want that to be you. So try to find this out before asking him out.

# Have a date in mind

When you go in saying “Do you want to go out?” you’re leaving that very open ended. They could say yes. If you don’t have a plan in mind, the date may never happen. Go into it with an idea.

If you know you share a love for the same band or are dying to try the new Thai restaurant nearby, work that into the ask out. Say something like, “Are you free Friday night? We should go to that new place down the street.” That gives a more firm plan and less follow up.

# Don’t second guess yourself

As women we often apologize for things we shouldn’t and second guess ourselves for no reason at all. If you ask a guy on a date, don’t begin with “I’m not sure if you’ll want to” or end with “It’s okay if you say no.”

This shows you don’t have much faith in yourself, even if you do. So be straight about it. Ask him if he would like to go out and keep it at that.

# Look him in the eyes

Eye contact is so important when dating or potentially dating. Nerves can cause you to look down or away from this guy, but making eye contact helps him to feel closer to you.

When you prompt him with your date proposal, look into his eyes, and don’t forget to smile. Whether he saw this coming or if it is a surprise, you’ll be putting him at ease.

# Lose the expectations

If you go in expecting him to say yes, you could come across as cocky. You could also have a bad reaction if he says no. But if you go in expecting him to say no you’ll have lower confidence, and he’ll feel that hesitancy.

So lose the expectations. Don’t worry so much about the outcome and what’s going to happen next. Rather focus on the conversation you have right now. Having expectations one way or another is likely to cause disappointment. Go in with an open mind.

# Do a smell check

This seems a little shallow, but smells effect us more than you think. Whether you’re asking a guy out at work, gym, or bar double check your breath and your BO.

Pop in a mint if you have garlic breath and spritz some perfume if you have a funky smell going on. Don’t overdo it, but smelling pleasant plays a pretty big role in attraction. Even if he likes you, bad breath could deter him from accepting your invitation.

# Be sure it’s a date

If you aren’t careful with your wording when asking a guy out on a date, he could think you’re just asking to hang out. And this can easily be interpreted as platonic, leading to you being friend-zoned.

To ensure that he knows you’re inquiring about a romantic date, try to say something along the lines of “It’s a date.” You don’t want to go out thinking it’s a date and find out halfway through he thought you were just friends. It’s best to be on the same page from the start.