7 Tips To Get A Guy To Ask You Out Without Risking Refusal Yourself

You might not realize it, but there’s an exchange of power going on when someone is asked out on a date. The person doing the asking is laying themselves out pretty vulnerable when you think about it. They’re risking a flat out refusal and that’s going to sting.

In that case, the person who is asked has all the power at that point. If you want to learn how to get a guy to ask you out successfully, you need to be the one with the power. That means you need to show him that you’re interested, but don’t make him too sure. Also, give him the opportunity to ask, without being too evasive or too cold.

It’s a balancing act, for sure, but if you want to avoid having to do the asking yourself, you need to keep that beacon of power firmly in your hands and don’t give him too much to play with.

# Get your friend to call you both a couple

When you’re having a fun chat with the guy you like, ask a trusted girl friend to join both of you in the conversation. It would be preferable if there are other friends around too. And out of the blue, let your trusted friend comment to no one in particular in the group and say something like, “these two make a cute couple, don’t they?”

It’s an awkward statement, and one that’ll definitely lead to a few laughs around the group. But all said and done, no matter how embarrassed you pretend to be or how he behaves, the thought will still linger in his head.

# Use a friend to tease him

Now don’t use all these strategies all the time. Just use a few that you’re comfortable with.

The next time you’re having a conversation with this guy, tell your friend beforehand to butt into the conversation. Ask your friend to tell the guy that it’s so obvious he likes you, and ask him when he’s ever going work up his courage to ask you out?! Of course, she has to make it seem like a joke, and yet, pose it as a serious question.

It’s straightforward and easy, and yet, you didn’t really ask him out yourself. If he does like you, he’ll use this opportunity to ask you out himself.

# Invite him to join you

If you’ve made any plans with your friends for the weekend, casually bring the subject up when you’re hanging out with him and invite him to come out with all of you. Tell him it’ll be fun to hang out together and check out a new place. It’s nowhere close to a proposal, but it’s still a step closer to making him like you.

# Look for common interests in weekend plans

Ask him what he does over the weekend. And when he does tell you what he does on the weekend, fake a happy surprise and tell him you like doing that too! If you’re not sure of his weekend activity, you could just tell him that you’ve always wanted to try that.

This only works if both of you share a few common interests. You obviously can’t stretch a lie here, so be careful when it comes to sharing activities over the weekend.

If he is interested in you, he may invite you to join him on his weekend activity. And who knows, it may just lead to something more romantic.

# Subtly let him know your routine

If a guy has to ask you out, he has to miss you now and then. Do you live nearby? Then this would be the perfect way to get to spend more together time with him. During one of your conversations, let him know what you do every evening after work or college, especially if you have a neighborhood café where you like relaxing after the regular 9 to 5, or hit a particular gym every day.

If he lives nearby, there’s a good chance he may have some time on his hands and he may even look forward to spending time with you. If you drop a hint and let him know about your routine, he may even end up bumping into you on a regular basis. And almost all the time, love emerges with more together time, doesn’t it?

# Get him to drive you nearby as a favor

Stepping out of office to run an errand after work? Try bumping into him on your way out and ask him to come along with you or drive you nearby to help you out. And after finishing up your errand, ask him out for coffee. Insist and tell him it’s the least you can do for helping you out. And once you’re out there on a *date* with him, make him see your good side and be awed by you.

# Play the damsel in distress

Ask him for help. This is a trick that always works. Guys just can’t help themselves when a pretty girl asks for a bit of help. Ask him if he can fix your wooden window panels or some other thing you can think of. If he does like you back, he’ll use any excuse to be with you. And after he’s done helping you, thank him with your sweetest smile and reward him with coffee or a homemade lunch.