7 Traits That Make A Man Fall In Love

The complaints are plenty: men only care about looks, men want young women, men want this, men want that. The facts, on the other hand, seem to be scarce. The truth always comes out, but only when you’re open to it.

In the case of what makes men fall in love, to the shock of many, it goes much further than skin-deep. A beautiful woman with a poor personality is only going to get so far with a man. An average woman with a golden personality will have suitors lining up. A gorgeous woman with a magical personality? A relic, and undoubtedly taken.

Here are the basic necessities for a man to fall in love, but first a reminder: these are traits that allow for healthy, happy relationships. It is not a matter of changing who you are to get a man; it’s a matter of self-improvement to be a great person a better person for yourself first, and for your partner second.

# Beauty is skin-deep, but it’s also the first impression you give off to the world

This means that taking care of yourself, being healthy, and taking pride in yourself are important. Vanity is a turn-off, but being able to love yourself is a whole other matter.

When a man sees a beautiful woman, he’s naturally programmed to notice, but it’s not just a simple matter of lust; it’s about what her looks represent: a woman who loves herself and takes pride in who she is as a person.

# Youth is more than just your age, and how you look

Age is but a number, ladies. Dressing like your daughter is not going to help. To be young means being able to be silly, cute, and entertaining. It means being able to enjoy life, and laugh. Live and let live. Being young on the inside is a joy not only for you, but for the man that gets to see you happy day in and day out.

# Similar interests are a given, of course

If a man finds a woman with similar interests, he finds himself being able to teach her more about the subjects, and learn a bit from her, as well. Common ground makes for entertaining conversation, and makes it so you can both share interests and make lasting memories.

# Perhaps the most important thing is emotional attraction

The number one thing men want in a woman, but will never outright admit *unless they’re mature, good men*, is the ability to be accepting. A woman who picks a fight over absolutely everything is not someone they want to settle down with.

Not being quick to anger, practicing mature problem-solving skills, and being spontaneous are all things that allow a person to be open with their partner, making it easy to handle things like adults. The only way to emotionally connect with a man is to let him be as he is, and to be as you are. Be accepting of each other, and solve things together.

# Ask his opinion, and include him in your thought process

Letting a man into your life means letting him into your life. It sounds like a given, but it’s not. Opening the door, accepting him as a partner—that’s all easy. To actually let him in, you have to do things like ask his opinion, share your ideas, and share your past. Ask him what he thinks about this brand of wine, or that job description. Ask what he considers the best plan of action for moving, or what he’d do in a specific situation.

In your mind, depending on how independent you are, it could seem like you’re too dependent, but that’s not at all what this means. This is simply asking his opinion, and letting him ask yours. He should respect your final decisions, just as you should respect his.

# Challenging each other is entertaining, and very, very hot

This doesn’t mean you’ll pick a fight over everything, or even anything at all, it simply means you thrive on differences. You celebrate them, and use them as an excuse for some deep conversations. It’s thrilling, exciting, and insightful.

Indulging each other’s differences can be so hot, you’ll stop talking and get busy instead. A woman that can challenge a man is exciting, because she has an intellect and identity of her own, regardless of anyone else including him.

# Mutual inspiration is the best thing in the world

When a man finds a woman that he inspires, he feels accomplished. But when he gets inspired by her, that’s a change of pace. That doesn’t happen everyday. If there’s mutual inspiration, then you’re both constantly pushing each other forward, bringing the best out in each other, and embracing change and evolving together. It means you’re growing together, rather than apart. It means you bring out the best versions of each other.