7 Ways How Facebook Ruins Relationships

We have seen it all on Facebook: from flirting, to dates, to fights, to breakups. We’ve all had at least one friend who features her relationships on Facebook like it’s something from a reality show and in fact, that friend broke up because of *you guessed it* Facebook. See how social media can ruin relationships and what you can do to avoid it.

# TMI

Sharing too much information about yourself can be harmful to your safety and privacy, as well as annoying to people who look at their newsfeeds and just see you all the time. This behavior is even more problematic when you’re in a relationship. Online Public Displays of Affection *OPDAs, if you will* can be acceptable, but only to a certain extent.

Your partner may want to keep your relationship *and fights* private and set boundaries on just how much people are allowed to snoop into your relationship. Part of the beauty of your relationship is that it is just you and your partner, so it’s really best to keep some of it secret.

# Revealing too much

You can reveal too much in your relationship even without words. Revealing too much can take the form of posting sexy and suggestive photos that you’re better off sexting to your partner. This can spark jealousy and insecurity from your partner, especially if you have male friends or even strangers, if your photos are public liking and commenting on your photos.

Putting your body out there in a suggestive way, when it should be kept private and for your partner’s eyes only, can trigger negative feelings from your partner and cause you to fight with each other.

# Entertaining exes

Chatting and messaging, as well as coyly replying to comments from the opposite sex from your past can make your partner uneasy, suspicious, and all-out jealous. Communicating with an ex, in any form, can be a very touchy subject to your current bae, and talking with your ex on social media, in front of everyone, has the potential to humiliate your current flame.

# Flipping out

Your partner posts something random and seemingly harmless, yet you overthink it. Each time they post something on social media, whether it’s their food *Who did you have dinner with?*, their selfie *Where were you in that picture?*, a quote *What’s that all about? Is that about me?*, or anything else, you’re always bound to think it’s about you or your relationship. You will find yourself unnecessarily on your toes, or restless because of the ghosts you have conjured. Step back, relax, and let them be.

# Passive-aggressive posts

Posting on Facebook instead of talking directly to your partner can make matters worse, instead of better. Posting vague statuses and quotes on Facebook, and hoping your rather oblivious and dense partner will notice and change isn’t really going to work.

Open communication is key in any relationship, so if you have a problem with your partner, talk to them directly instead of posting about it on social media. Besides, your petty rants and subliminal messages will accomplish nothing but annoy your friends.

# Facebook time instead of quality time

You know when you’re in bed and instead of talking about how your day went and updating each other, you’re both huddled up on your phones? Or, instead of enjoying a nice date together, your partner is busily taking a picture of your meal and taking selfies between bites?

Excessive time with Facebook takes the fun and spontaneity out of the moment, especially if you cannot enjoy your vacation with your partner because they’d rather take selfies and pictures instead of enjoy your time together. Spending a lot of time worrying about what you’ll post drains the intimacy out of your relationship and out of the time you should be spending together.

# Facebook stalking

Facebook can also ruin your chances for a new relationship. Instead of the usual getting-to-know-you stage, you already know a lot about the person. Gone is a totally blind date, because as soon as you know the name of the person, you check them out on Facebook and find out all there is to know. You immediately judge the person based on what you see, without even really knowing what they are all about. The same can go for you, as the person you’re dating may have already judged you through Facebook, before they actually saw you.