7 Ways To Ask Someone To Hang Out Over Text So They Will Say Yes

Starting something new with someone is a little scary. Hell, it’s actually terrifying. You’re putting yourself out on a limb and if they refuse you, it’ll hurt. But setting yourself up for success by learning how to ask someone to hang out over text the right way can help reduce the risk of rejection.

Because that’s why it’s so intimidating. We don’t want them to reject us. It’s embarrassing and a blow to our self-esteem. But knowing what to do and say in order to get them to hang out with you can help you avoid rejection altogether.

After you’ve been texting them for a little while and have determined that you like them, it’s time for the next step. You have to learn how to ask in a way that’ll make them feel comfortable while also making them want to see you. Here’s how to do that.

# Work up to it

You can’t just get someone’s number and then ask them to hang out. That’s poor taste and they’ll more than likely be really freaked out. Imagine how you’d feel if that happened. You don’t even know the person yet!

You have to work up to asking them to hang out. That means having a real conversation and figuring out how comfortable they are with you first.

# Get to know them a bit

The best thing you can do to increase your chances of them actually wanting to hang out is to get to know them. Talk to them about everything. Figure out their likes and dislikes.

Not only does this show them you’re interested, but you can also gauge their interest by how much they’re willing to share. Plus, the more you know about them, the easier it’ll be to pick where you hang out and what to do when you finally ask them.

# Keep the conversation light and fun beforehand

Before you go in for this question, get to a very pleasant place in the conversation. You never want to be serious and tense before asking someone new to hang out with you.

The happier they are when talking to you, the more likely they’ll want to see you in person. This is all about getting them to see you in a fun light. That means joking around, talking about humorous things, and even complimenting them if need be.

# Gauge their interest in you

You don’t want to ask if you don’t think they’re into you. This might just be the last straw for them and they’ll cut off communication altogether. But if you know how they feel before asking, it’ll go better for everyone.

You can figure this out by determining if they text you first sometimes. Do they also try to keep the conversation going by asking you questions? Do they want to know more about your life? These are all solid clues that show you they’re interested in getting to know you better.

# Get a little flirty

Once you’ve determined that they actually like you and want to keep things going with you, start flirting. You definitely want to ease into this so it’s not so shocking to them.

So start small. Give them a compliment. Send something funny with a wink face so they know where our head is at. Depending on how they respond, you can increase the intensity a little bit and get playful. The more they respond in kind, the more they probably want to meet up in person.

# Plan for something you know they’ll like

By now you know them pretty well. You know what they like to do and that means if you want them to say yes to hanging out with you, you should plan something you know they couldn’t refuse.

If they’re a coffee junky, plan a hangout to the local coffee shop that plays live music. The point is to make sure they’d actually want to go along even if it wasn’t with you. That way they’ll be more likely to say yes and get to know you better in person.

# Keep it casual

There’s no need to tell them it’s a date or anything like that. You don’t want them feeling pressured or nervous. That will make them wary and not as likely to want to hang out.

Keep things casual and see if they’re interested. Just say something like, “Hey, want to hang out at that coffee shop later? I heard they have a great band playing.” It’s simple and doesn’t make them think it’s a date.