7 Ways To Get Out Of The Friend Zone

You like someone, it seems to be going well but then suddenly, you start to see a difference. You’ve been friend zoned. When you have a crush on someone, this is one of the single worst places to be! They don’t see you as an attractive option, they see you as a good friend. That would be fine if friendship was the only thing on your mind, but it’s not! The good news? You can learn how to get out of the friend zone and get your romantic interests back on track.

For those of you unfamiliar with the friend zone, lucky you! The friend zone is when the person you have romantic feelings for only thinks of you as a friend. This can often stop someone from expressing their real feelings, and perpetuate a one-sided romantic attraction. It’s even worse when the person you’ve been crushing on finds another person they do feel romantically towards and you’re left being the confidante.

The good thing about the friend zone is that you can be close to the person you like as much as you want. The bad thing is that this person might not even know they just put you in the friend zone, because they don’t know how you really felt in the first place.

# Tell them how you feel

This is the most short and sharp route towards getting out of the friend zone. They could have put you in the friend zone without even knowing that you have feelings for them—which is NOT their fault. If you’re in the friend zone by default, because you couldn’t muster up the courage to tell them, then you have no one to blame but yourself. Who knows? They could have feelings for you, too.

# Show them how you feel

If telling them isn’t an option, because you’re scared, or nervous, or whatever lame excuse you have, show them how you feel. Act like you have feelings for them. Tell them you like their new haircut, or that the color of their shirt makes them look really good. Do things for them that show them you care more than a friend would.

# Try and get them to see you in a romantic way

More than likely, you’ve shown them the more intimate side of yourself. Now, we’re not saying to go make out with them, but make them picture you being someone’s boyfriend or girlfriend.

For example, if they start telling you about how this person’s boyfriend did this, come back by saying, “If I had a boyfriend/girlfriend, this is what I would do.” It gets their mind thinking about the way you’ll treat your significant other. You could also be very direct and say “if you were my boyfriend/girlfriend then I would …” They can’t ignore that sign, right?

# When learning how to get out of the friend zone, don’t let them talk to you as a friend

People don’t talk to their friends like they do to their significant others. If that’s your end game, don’t let them talk to you like you’re their BFF. Don’t let them gossip about other love interests, or complain about them, either. Let them talk about anything BUT significant other problems. They’ll never think of you as a possible boyfriend or girlfriend if they talk to you about those issues.

# Figure out why they only like you as a friend, and then fix it

Maybe you only treat them like a friend. Maybe they don’t think you’re that compatible. Whatever it is, there is probably a way to get around it. If they don’t think you’re compatible, for instance, you can make it a point to show them just how compatible the two of you really are.

# Be a little tactile and make physical contact every now and again

No, we don’t mean go and slap their butt. Not at all. Subtly and nonchalantly make a point to touch them from time to time. Establishing physical contact will make them see that you’re being a little more than friendly.

A great way to do this is to just pat them on the back as you come up behind them, or touch their shoulder when they’ve said something funny. Little things that close the gap between you will move you out of the friend zone.

# Flirt up a storm!

For the love of all that is holy, FLIRT WITH THEM! One of the only things that can differentiate someone from liking a person as a friend and liking them more than a friend is flirting. If you’re continuously flirting with someone, you will send them a clear message that you like them romantically.

Not only that, but by flirting, you’re also opening up the opportunity for them to flirt back. This is a great way to lightly exchange some fun conversation that isn’t drawing attention to the fact that you’re stuck in the friend zone.