7 Ways To Make Him See That You Are Girlfriend Material

Some girls want purely fun and casual relationships, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But some girls prove to be girlfriend material. You’ve been in the dating scene for so long—in fact, much too long. At first, you just want to enjoy the ride and see how things go. You’ve had your share of good and bad dates, and you just had enough.

Now, after searching high and low, you feel like you have found “the one.” The only problem is, you’re not sure about his feelings for you. You fear that he doesn’t see you as girlfriend material.

You’re not exclusively dating, but you personally don’t want to date anyone else. Plus—and this is the biggest, scariest, and most important part of all—you’re falling for him!

# Keep in touch

Find time to call or text, even just to say “hi,” or thank him for the mind-blowing sex you had last night. Drop some naughty words to sex it up a little to diffuse the freaky, clingy factor that can instantly turn most guys off.

Asking him about his day lets him know that you thought about him and that you are interested in how he is, even if you’re not together. Girlfriends tend to send updates and communicate with their man, even for just a short while.

However, be wary of not being too chummy, especially early in the relationship, because the last thing you want is to force it.

# Ask for advice

Men have an innate need to rescue the damsel in distress, and asking for help from him from time to time feeds that need. So whether it is as simple as asking him if you should buy new rims for your car or getting his opinion about career decisions, asking him for advice will take your relationship deeper than just the physical.

If you want him to see you as girlfriend material, asking him for help from time to time will boost his ego and make him feel needed. Just make sure not to overdo it, as you might be seen as needy!

# Touch and cuddle

When you are just in the throes of a sexual relationship, you may not touch him or let yourself be touched outside the bedroom. This time, take this physical relationship a tad deeper by touching and cuddling—of course, in a subtle way.

When you see him, make that peck in the cheek last a few seconds longer, hold his arms or squeeze his hand when he cracks a joke, make that embrace linger just a little, and just take every chance to touch him.

Make it a point to encourage some cuddling so that he knows that you’re not just in the bedroom for fun and games.

# Ask him about his day

Another subtle sign of letting him know you care is by asking him how he is or how his day at the office went. Listen and be genuinely interested. If he’s had a bad day, try to reassure him or cheer him on, if not with some amazing sex, then with tickets to his favorite ball game. This is a significant aspect if you want to be girlfriend material.

Listen to him ramble on about his day at work and most importantly, care even about the small details. He’ll appreciate this coming from you. By being supportive, you’re subtly showing him that you are in fact worth keeping.

If you can be a friend to him even without the fringe benefits, the transition to being a girlfriend will go more smoothly.

# Bring out the fun and the easygoing you

Contrary to popular belief, being a girlfriend doesn’t mean you completely forget and eliminate all the fun and easygoing parts of yourself. You want him to take you seriously, but that doesn’t require not being a fun person! Don’t be afraid to be silly. Better yet, don’t be scared to be yourself.

Make some room for laughter in your rather vague *for now* relationship. Exude confidence, and show that you are comfortable enough to give him insight into who you really are as a person.

Besides, every guy loves a girl who makes him laugh and makes him feel special. You want him to see you as both a partner and girlfriend, which is why goofiness is the key!

# Mark your territory

Leave some toiletries and other small belongings in his apartment. This is not only convenient for you in the long run, but it also gives him a subtle reminder of you around his place. Do the same thing to your own place, where you can leave some space in your closet for his own stuff.

This is a way of showing him that you are part of his life and that he is part of yours too. Little by little, this cements a long-term VIP status by occupying a significant and private space in his life—his place—and later on, his heart.

He won’t even realize it, but this marking of territories will entirely change his perspective of you.

# Get to know his friends

One of the aspects that separate a girlfriend from a fling is introducing you to his friends. Some men also value the opinion of their friends, so getting to know his friends is the key to his heart. Show that you can play it cool and that you can handle hanging out with his crew without losing your feminine side.

By spending time with him and his friends, you learn a lot more about your guy while proving to him that you can handle yourself around all that testosterone.

This also communicates to him that you are independent enough to handle yourself around unfamiliar people and make everyone have a great time.