7 Ways To Stop Fleabagging And Improve Your Love Life For Good

You start going out with someone, and whether or not you actually like them, they treat you disrespectfully, and the relationship ends. Although that should be the end of this story, it’s not. Because you move onto the next person, and they treat you the exact same way. Sound familiar? Well, this is called fleabagging.

If this is a new term for you, well, welcome to the 2020s anything is possible! So, what does fleabagging even mean? It’s time to learn exactly what your behavior is called.

Fleabagging comes from the show Fleabag, created by Pheobe Waller-Bridge. The main character continues to date the wrong guys, getting heartbroken every time. You have two types of fleabaggers: the one that’s a hot mess and the one who continues to see the same horrible person over and over again. One of them sounds familiar, right?

# It’s time to look within

This isn’t about anyone else but you. It’s time to stop pointing fingers at other people or using your past as an excuse for your behavior. If you want to change the way people see you, you need to change the way you see yourself.

# It’s you, not them

I’m sorry, but it’s not them. It’s you. You are attracting and allowing yourself to date people who are wrong for you. You are the only one who has the power to change your actions and behavior. If you date someone who drinks because you come from a family of alcoholics, you can change that path. It’ll be hard, but you can do it.

# Look at your life values

What do you want from your life? Do you want children? Do you want to travel the world? Or do you want to live surrounded by family and friends? What are your life values because you want someone who shares similar ones.

# What are your needs?

What do you need? It’s a question we don’t often ask ourselves, yet, it’s an important one. What do you need from a partner? What are the traits you’re looking for? Do you need a trustworthy partner? Or do you want someone who is funny or kind?

# What are your deal breakers?

We all have them. You should have personal boundaries; if not, you don’t know yourself. What are things you will not accept from a partner? And if these are your genuine deal breakers, don’t let someone break them.

# Focus on self-love and self-worth

The reason why you’re meeting the same person over and over again is that you don’t respect yourself. It sounds harsh, but it’s true. If you did respect yourself, you wouldn’t go for the same person who’s clearly wrong for you. But you do, and it’s because you don’t see your worth.

# Date yourself first

This sounds cliche, but it’s true. If you really want to stop fleabagging, then date yourself first. I mean it. Learn about yourself, learn to love yourself, and enjoy spending time with only you. Only then will you be able to understand who you are, what you want, and the type of person you need.