8 Fourth Date Tips To Play It Right

If you’ve been in the dating scene for a while now, chances are that you already have a good idea of what there is to know about dating. By the time you get into the fourth date, you probably have a dating routine going with the person you’re seeing. You’re comfortable with each other and have already agreed, though not explicitly, that you like each other’s company.

After a while, you get to know them better: what they do, where they work, what they do on their free time, and whether or not they’ve been following Game of Thrones *a conversation topic that, by the way, may make or break your relationship potential*. If you’ve played your cards right during the first three dates, then you know what to expect on the fourth date… or do you?

It’s during this critical fourth date that the magic usually happens. And by magic, we mean S-E-X.

# Preparation is still key

So you’ve gone through three dates already and they’ve all went well. You’re now very comfortable that you can be yourself without feeling too self-conscious. And, of course, it’s obvious that you like each other a lot. However, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t shave your legs tonight, or that you can go without your breath mints this time. Prepare for the fourth date as if it were your first date and anticipate it with the same excitement.

# Make it special

Now that you know each other pretty well, you can plan your date based on what he or she likes. If she’s an audiophile, you can take her to a concert or a record store on your date. If he’s into basketball, maybe you can score some tickets so the two of you can watch a live game.

# Maintain your manners

Knowing the other person so well can make you so comfortable that you forget your manners. Even if it’s the fourth date, continue to arrive on time. Let your date choose what they want from the menu, and please don’t fart or pick your nose. If you find that you have common friends, don’t make your whole date night full of gossip.

# Remember: this could be the start of something good

Now that you’re onto the fourth date, don’t take it for granted. While it’s all about first impressions, don’t be hard on your date or yourself. Give each other a chance to make a few boo-boos here and there. Don’t act like a jerk. The person you’re dating may leave a significant mark on your life, and may even be the person you’ll marry and have kids with. So don’t ruin it.

# Learn to listen

Don’t make your dates about you. If you don’t know much about your date, make the fourth date the perfect time to listen and ask questions. And just because you know some things about them doesn’t mean it ends there. Continue to get to know them better, listen attentively and genuinely, and show interest in the things that they like.

# No need to hurry

Different people have different preferences about how they want dates and relationships to progress. Some can be fast and aggressive, while others prefer to take things slowly. By this time, you already have an idea about how your date prefers to take your relationship. The important thing here, however, is to just go with the flow and don’t do anything that might scare your date away or cause you regret.

# Have sex by not wanting to have sex

One good strategy for not scaring off your date by coming off as sex-hungry is by making it clear to your date that you’re just not in it for the sex. By letting them know that you like them for much more than their sexual appeal, you’re making them feel comfortable and in control.

# Try to go for the lips this time

So while sex doesn’t necessarily have to be a priority at this point, you can show your attraction and affection for your date with a romantic kiss on the lips. However, don’t just do this at any given time. You have to make your first kiss memorable by strategically planning your date and planting that pucker at the perfect moment. Usually, this happens by the end of the date, so be ready for that goodnight kiss.