8 Major Signs His Ex Wife Wants Him Back

Crude data speaks in favor of your suspicion. A study shows that 61% of surveyed American adults said that keeping in touch with their exes was not a good idea. However, contradicting themselves, over 51% stayed friends with their exes. This contradiction, or a denial, is where your suspicion holds ground.

This is why when your partner says, “But she has no one else”, when he keeps giving his ex-wife money, or “But we are just friends!”, after running an errand for her, you feel unshakeable pangs of doubt and insecurity in your relationship.

However, retroactive jealousy is a real possibility, where a person feels unreasonably paranoid and jealous of their partner’s past relationships. Studies have shown that rejection sensitivity in some individuals makes them more prone to feeling jealous.

# She suddenly got in touch

Your partner and his ex may not have particularly been in touch. Until now, when she entered your lives like a bad case of flu – sudden, seemingly harmless, but nevertheless frustrating. His ex-wife recently crossed paths with him. And now she is calling him, texting him, and liking and commenting on his social media posts. Basically, she is everywhere.

# She is communicating at odd hours

Not only has she barged her way into your and your partner’s life, but she also does so at inappropriate hours. Late-night texts and phone calls that she calls “butt dials” show that she is trying to compete with you for his attention. Those hours are reserved for you and she is hinting at something if she is trying to elbow you out.

# She is drunk dialing him

Doesn’t matter if she is truly dialing him under the influence of alcohol, or if she is faking it. Point is, she is showing vulnerability to her ex-husband and playing mind games with him. She might be trying to attract him again by behaving inappropriately under the pretext of being drunk.

# She is sharing intimate details

The things she shared with your husband can underline her real intentions. Is she just keeping in touch in a platonic amicable way? Or is she showing clear sexual signs or signs of romantic manipulation she wants him back?

# She often asks for his help

Reaching out to him for help kills two birds with one stone. She demonstrates her willingness to be vulnerable with him. AND she gives him a chance to be a hero. Appealing to his ego by letting him be helpful, she is probably trying to rekindle an emotional connection with him.

However, do look at your partner’s response before worrying. If he willingly keeps giving his ex-wife money, doesn’t mind running errands for her, or picking her up when she is stranded, you are not wrong for fearing if he wants to get back with his ex.

# She often alludes to their past when talking to him

His ex-wife is jealous of your relationship and is responding by trying to make you jealous if she is alluding to her shared history with your husband. She is playing mind games with you and wants to make you retroactively jealous about your partner’s past.

If you respond by wondering if he still loves his ex-wife, did he have a better time with her, was their relationship more special than yours, you are giving her exactly what she wants. Resist that urge and look at her antics for what they’re – an act of desperation. Unless your partner eagerly wanders through memory lane or plans a trip of his own, you shouldn’t worry.

# She posts #tbt pictures of them on social media

Divorce and social media are complicated territory. If she is trying to remind him, you, AND the world about their relationship, it is one of the most obvious signs his ex-wife wants him back. The caption to the old throwback honeymoon picture she just uploaded might say, “Good ol’ times!”, but that is enough to publicly remind him of their history.

If this is why you have begun feeling second to his ex-wife, you have no reason to worry. Grass often looks greener on the other side. Your life and relationship with your partner are plenty unique and solid too. After all, he did choose you, didn’t he?

# She is trying to make him jealous

She might be trying to get your partner’s attention by doing things intended to make him jealous, or indirectly flirting with him, or instigating FOMO in him. To get you to catch our drift, here are some examples of things she could be doing:

- She keeps showing up at common parties with her new partner
- She repeatedly talks about how well she is doing
- If your partner and his ex co-parent, she persistently mentions how well her new partner and the kid/s get along
- She aggrandizes her new partner in front of your spouse in other ways.