8 Major Signs You Should Stop Pursuing The Girl You Like

Is it worth chasing a girl at the peril of your own self-worth and mental well-being? Do you uselessly want to chase a girl and turn into that person riddled with unrelenting pain? While pursuing a girl, you look at things from your perspective and cling on to the hope that someday she will feel the same, but have you tried to see the situation from her point of view?

Have you read the obvious signs that she is putting out there which are conveying a very strong refusal of your advances with no chances of backing down? What if you read them but you are in denial of what she wants? In your head, you might think that she likes you and is merely playing hard to get to get your attention. But it is worth considering that she might just not be interested, plain and simple. So when should you stop pursuing a girl or stop talking to her entirely? We bring you 8 signs to make it clear as day for you.

# You’re not her type

You are Mr. Handsome, Mr. Rich, and Mr. Perfect, a perfect package! Every girl crushes over you, except your own dream girl. Yes, it’s tough to accept but its simple. You’re just not her type. Maybe she likes the bad boy types and you are a soft and sincere man. Maybe she likes her men less macho, and you are the other kind. Maybe she likes her men serious and you like to make the mood light-hearted.

In short, you may not be the type of boyfriend she is looking for. No matter how perfect you might be, she will not show any interest in you, because you don’t fit into her idea of a perfect man. In such cases, whether you are crazy about her or not doesn’t matter, because she knows beforehand that it’s not going to work. So stop chasing her and move on.

# A girl who isn’t interested will text you formally

Whenever you text her, her answers will always be to the point. You won’t get a warm and friendly feeling from her messages and at times, she may not even reply to you. It might be because she feels nothing and doesn’t want to lead you on. Remember most women are coded to give a soft “no” for either safety reasons or out of respect, because they expect you to be smart enough to connect the dots. So do exactly that, connect those dots and stop talking to her.

It is her way of saying that she isn’t interested in you. You might keep pursuing her thinking that by doing so, she will acknowledge your gestures and fall for you. Sorry to break your dream, but such gestures will only convince here you’re being somewhat of a creep. These are signs she wants you to back off. So, read the obvious signs and walk away from her.

# She is always busy

How many times has she told you that she is busy when you tried to ask her out? You try to make plans to meet up or hang out but she always has an excuse. Even if you try to make plans according to her schedule, something comes up at the last moment. It may even make you question, “Is it worth chasing a girl when she never reciprocates to my advances?”

# She wants an emotional relationship with you

An emotional relationship is a relationship between two people that only involves sharing emotional baggage with one another. She ignores the fact that you like her and calls you only when she needs you. Perhaps some friend in your group has been rude to her and she wants you to be on her side. Or maybe she just wants your help with a project.

She becomes needy and clingy when her life is a mess and, of course, since you are so smitten by her, you give her the attention and pampering she needs at that point to feel good about herself. But as soon as her crisis is over, you return to the backburner. She is using you as her crutch to get over her bad phases. To understand when to stop letting your life revolve around this girl, look at whether your emotional needs are even being acknowledged, let alone met, in this equation.

# Her phone is more important to her than you are

It’s time to pay attention to where you rank on this girl’s priority list. She says you are her friend but when she goes out with you, she doesn’t leave her phone at all. She answers all the calls, checks every forwarded message, maybe even casually watches a few reels on her phone as if you aren’t sitting in front of her at all.

She doesn’t give you the basic attention that even a friend deserves. If you try calling her in the evenings or after work hours, her phone would always be busy. It could be because she’s giving her time to someone else who ranks much higher on her priority list.

# She is still getting over a rough breakup

You have to give up on a girl if you are convinced that she is still recovering from a heartbreak. That situation usually turns very messy and will leave you in a lot of pain. If she is not yet ready for a romantic relationship and you keep sending her signals that you love her, she may find you insensitive, even if she enjoys the attention in that moment. But know that she will definitely not think of you in any romantic way if she is not over her past partner.

It takes longer for some people to get over a breakup, even if the past relationship was a short one. Such people are still battling their emotions and are not ready to get into another relationship. They also carry baggage which perhaps needs processing and they are hence lying low.

# She is too nice to say no to you

Most people just don’t know how to handle a situation when a guy confesses his liking or love for them. She might initially seem interested and even flirt with you a little, but in your heart, you will know if she is not into you. She will not be present in the relationship like you are, not whole-heartedly for sure.

You will be able to sense that she is distant even if her words say otherwise. She might be too nice to say no (or maybe a little confused about whether you’d be good for her) but you should be smart enough to understand it. Will you want someone half-hearted if you feel so intensely? No, right? That right there is your answer to when should a sincere man stop pursuing a girl.

# It’s clearly not going anywhere

You have confessed your feelings to her, but she’s giving you no reassurance, feedback, or indication that she feels a similar way. You ask her about it but she finds a way to neither say yes nor no. Your friendship is at a standstill and you are unclear whether your relationship with her is moving forward or backward.

The only constant in this equation is a sense of confusion. Ask yourself, “Is it worth chasing a girl when you don’t even know where you stand with her?” And this not knowing can kill you from inside. But if you feel that the relationship is not going anywhere and it has been a while, you should stop thinking about her.