8 Questions Girls Must Ask Guy Before An Arranged Marriage

An arranged marriage in India is a serious proposition because it's a marriage arranged by two families keeping in mind the financial, caste, and educational parity. Even though an arranged marriage meeting is technically like a first date, meeting your potential life partner on an arranged marriage date, is a lot more serious. For starters, both your families are eagerly waiting to know if you think he is 'the one'. So unlike a casual first date, you need to ask some meaningful arrange marriage questions to the man you are meeting.

We get stories of unhappy marriages where people regret not spending enough time with the prospective life partner to gauge whether they were really compatible. They wish they focused more, especially on major life goals and principles, because they believe this would have been indicative of the early warnings of potential friction between the couple.

# Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

This is a very important arranged marriage question. I know it sounds like you are taking his job interview, but it’s such a vital question that you shouldn’t skip it. This should be the first arranged marriage question for couples. His personal and professional goals for the next 5 years will give you an idea about where his priorities lie and whether it’s aligned with your expectations from life.

This question will also help you understand how sorted he is in his head. Whether he has set any goals and how has he planned to achieve those in future. This question will tell you a lot about him and his attitude in life. Whether he is driven or laid back. If you are organized and driven and he is not, it may create issues in your marital life later as you will think of him as not taking charge of his life. For most women that is something that they cannot handle, a floater. In the Indian context, this gets further emphasized as they have probably seen their dad and uncle take complete charge. This is why we have put this arranged marriage question at No. 1.

# Would you like to pursue any hobby, if you had more time?

Questions about hobbies can sound straight out of Sooraj Barjatya movies, but a person’s interest in things other than his career says a great deal about what they are like from inside and whether you find those things interesting as well. This can be a girl-boy question for an arranged marriage. A girl’s hobbies say a lot about her too.

Find out if he wants to learn the guitar or play golf later on in life. Through this arranged marriage question you would get to know about his aspirations and interests. You can ask him about his childhood hobbies which he might not have been able to pursue later in life because of studies and job pressure. This could also give you a peek into the person he is.

# What do you like to do on days when you are not working?

If you are wondering what question to ask in an arranged marriage this could be the one. It will help you understand what he is beyond his work and education. Maybe he prefers to read, watch movies or catch up with friends – what he likes to do on days to get out of boredom gives you a chance to find out if you have any common interests. You could also ask him about the kind of shows and movies he likes, whether this is something both of you can enjoy at the end of the day.

# Do you like to travel?

If you are thinking about what question to ask a boy in an arranged marriage then this is it. If you are a traveller by heart and your potential spouse gets homesick pretty fast, then you will end up in an imbalanced marriage and so will he. This may seem irrelevant and not really a deal-breaker but remember we live in a world that has far more stress than the earlier ones and it is important to take breaks and in a way where both get rejuvenated. So even if this seems random go ahead and ask him about his travel interests. Also whether he is a beach person or a mountain? Does he like to hike or take long naps during these breaks? If you ask this question in an arranged marriage you will know what kind of vacation the two of you will have together.

# What do you like to drink?

This is for alcoholic beverages. This is an important question that you must ask the boy before marriage. If you enjoy your wine and vodka (whether occasional or not) you must know his take on alcoholic drinks.

He may hesitate to ask you about drinks assuming you may judge him otherwise; if he doesn’t you should. Also, you will know what he thinks of women who drink. Does he look at them disparagingly? Perhaps he drinks but doesn’t think it is okay for women to? Even if you don’t drink, his perspective on it would tell you a lot about the kind of person he is.

# Tell me about your closest friends

There is a saying, ‘birds of the same feather flock together’, ask him about his friends. His close circle. What do they do, are they married? How do they hang out together? What is their idea of a fun evening? Knowing about his closest friends will also tell you about the kind of company he likes to keep. Do they get sloshed on weekends or are more into sports. You can even run a check on these friends on social media. A picture can tell a 1000 words.

# Who are you closest to, in your family?

It’s very important to ask. He could be closest to his mother or siblings, granny or a cousin. By asking this you know who has the most influence on him, who he confides in and who his lifelines are. These arranged marriage question will help you determine if you have to tackle a mamma’s boy or you have a man here who is attached to his family but at the same time independent enough to make his own decisions.

# Do you like kids?

Well, it’s an arranged marriage date, so bringing up kids is not just okay, but very much necessary. But if he wants kids then you have to ask him for any timeline he may have in his mind. Does he want kids early or he would like to wait a few years till the two of you get to know each other well? Does he believe in having just one kid or two? You can ask this in the second or third meet but it is important to know how he sees his family life with you.