8 Signs You Should End Your Long Distance Relationship

When there is chemistry between two people, it is hard when geography suddenly starts standing in their way. But there are a lot of long distance relationships between people who share the same bed, which means being close is a matter of emotions, not geography.

One can say long distance relationships have a short future, while others claim how this challenging situation can enhance the relationship because both partners are trying harder to make it work. Some might even prefer these relationships because of that.

The success of a long distance relationship is dependent on many factors, primarily on psychological ones, such as the capability to delay gratification, the willingness to make plans and long term goals, the ability to improvise and feel connected with someone who is not physically around, and the readiness to make it work in the times of uncertainty.

# You stopped making plans together

People believe they should end a long distance relationship only if abstinence becomes a nightmare. But it’s not important if you’re not sleeping in the same bed, as long as you are dreaming together.

If you don’t know when the next time you’re going to hug each other is going to be or when the long distance scenario is going to end, it is probably time to give up on hitting the snooze button on the future of your relationship. It’s never going to wake up.

# You don’t chat on Skype/Whatsapp/Viber as often and as elaborately as you did before

Thanks to the internet, communication in these relationships should not be a barrier. At first, when you or your significant other moved to another country, it felt like you got yourself in a relationship with a computer. After a while, you started asking yourself: Where did all those kissing emojis go?

However, if you feel like you are not sharing enough and neither of you wants to report the lack of communication, it is an unambiguous sign that you have slowly given up.

# Suspicions are sucking all of your energy

Chatting 24/7 does not mean everything is fine between the two of you. Checking up on each other every hour sounds more like doubtful stalking than a caring gesture. If them not being online for three hours puts you in an anxious position and you’re worrying about whether they’re doing something behind your distant back because they know they won’t get caught, it means this relationship is too much for you.

While distance may feel like the obvious culprit in your constant need to check up on your partner, part of the problem most likely lies in your lack of trust.

# You don’t feel like you are supported

It seems like you are the only one fighting against the distance. Every time you are on Skype, it’s all about them. Somehow, they always manage to manipulate you into thinking that their situation is more burdensome than yours.

If you try to talk about it and your partner does not acknowledge constructive criticism, it is evidence that they are not even trying to understand you. Well, even a shoulder to cry on needs a shoulder to cry on. If your partner can’t understand that, it’s time to leave this relationship.

# With each visit, there is less and less intimacy

Having sex every time you get together is not enough. Intimacy has nothing to do with being naked in bed. In the beginning, you were thinking of how the long distance implies that your love is so big that it cannot be put in just one city, but now it’s more like your love has entered an empty street.

If you feel alienated after not seeing each other for a long time, it is better to end it now than wait until one of you tries to find intimacy in another part of the world, in the other part of your heart.

# You would rather spend your money on clothes than buy a plane ticket

A straightforward sign you had a priority shift.

# One is jealous when the other is having a good time

Deprivation of physical contact can make people suffer, so they try to build a strong friend support system and distract themselves with socializing and other hobbies. If your partner refuses to understand why you’re spending so much time trying to relax and have fun on the other part of the world, they should not be a part of your world anymore.

# You spend more time talking about irrelevant stuff than discussing your relationship

There is not much to say. You are afraid to say something that will turn the physical distance into a psychological one. You are communicating problems by implicitly tweeting about them or liking the new profile pic of your ex. You are progressively delaying scheduled Skype calls, or you constantly make excuses to each other about how you don’t have time to talk.

In this case, it seems the whole space-time continuum is against you. Maybe you should just go with the flow and end things.