8 Tips To Flirt With Your Eyes And Get The Message Across

When you’re at a busy bar, and you see someone from across the room, how do you expect to get their attention without yelling? You look at them. If there’s one thing we underestimate, it’s non-verbal communication, and this is your go-to guide to completely understand how to flirt with your eyes.

Flirting with your eyes is extremely powerful and easy to do. Plus, if the other person isn’t interested in you, you’ll get the message back in no time. It’s the first thing you can do before approaching someone.

Remember, the eyes can do a lot more than just flirt. They show anger, sadness, joy, and love. The eyes are the window into the soul. We assume that words mean more than anything else, but that’s wrong. When it comes to communication, actions always speak louder than words.

# The casual stare

In the beginning, you want to keep things low-key and casual. You don’t want to make the other person uncomfortable by staring at them intensely. So, keep your glances casual, and look at them in a relaxed manner. You want them to see that you’ve looked at them, but you’re not a creeper.

# The 4.5-second scan

When looking at the average person, we spend three seconds scanning their face. But if someone has caught our attention, the facial scan lasts for four and a half seconds. With eye contact, 10 seconds means you either want to be intimate with them or you want to fight.

# Make longer eye contact

So, you’ve casually looked at them, and they now notice you. Now, wait for the right moment to make eye contact with them. If they’re looking back at you, make your eyes meet them and hold the glance for a couple of seconds.

Don’t stare for too long, or else it can be a little too much. Just long enough to let them know you’re interested in them.

# Give the room another glance

You have made eye contact, and they seem to be interested. They’re not looking away with an uninterested face or ignoring your glances. To make sure they’re interested, look away from them, scan the room and look back at them. Use your body language to get your message across.

# Don’t forget the rest of your face

Flirting isn’t only with the eyes. Don’t forget to use the rest of your face. Show off your smile, and make your attraction to them known. Flirting involves the whole body, so don’t be afraid to use the rest of your body language.

# You can wink if you want!

If you’re someone with a solid wink, then bring it out to shine! If you’re someone who can wink, why not give it a try? It’s cheeky and can be funny *in a good way*. But if you’re not comfortable winking, practice at home first. If it doesn’t feel natural, then don’t do it.

# The flirting triangle

There have been plenty of studies that show we look at different parts of people’s faces depending on how attracted we are to them. When we’re talking to a stranger, we move our eyes from eye to eye and to the bridge of the nose. The more comfortable we are around them, the triangle widens. With lovers, our triangle widens evermore, including the mouth.

# The power of the blink

Did you know blinking can help show someone you’re interested in them? ‘Batting your eyelashes’ didn’t come from nowhere. When someone looks at a person they’re interested in; they blink more. If they like you back, they’ll match your blinking.