8 Ways Couples Lose The Spark In Their Relationship

When you lose the spark in a relationship, it’s not always because both of you don’t have time for each other. Almost always, it’s because both of you just aren’t having enough fun together!

All relationships start with a bang. But then a few months or years may pass by, and one fine day, both of you realize that there’s still love and togetherness in the relationship. But it’s just not fun anymore!

The relationship’s boring, both of you just live together and yet share nothing exciting with each other. And both of you convince yourselves that a romantic relationship exists only for togetherness, and only the first few stages of romance feel like fun.

# You take each other for granted

The easiest *and yet the harshest* way to reason this loss of spark in your romance is because both of you have started taking each other for granted and given up on trying to impress each other.

# You stop pleasing each other

One partner may have stopped pleasing the other. And the other partner too may have eventually followed suit. And life just goes on normally because both partners now don’t need to try and impress each other anymore. *because the other partner isn’t doing it!*

# Routine sets in

When we first start dating someone, it’s like taking a hit of your favorite drug. We are literally “high on love” with all the love hormones coming from our brains.

But then, the spark in the relationship wears off. And you return to reality and come down from your love high. Then you get into a routine, and usually, it’s a boring one.

# Children

If you have children with your partner, then that is a major change in your life. Babies, toddlers, children, and teenagers are all difficult in their own way.

But regardless, they all take attention away from your time with each other. And that can certainly dim the spark in your relationship.

# Work

Everyone has to work to put food on the table and a roof over their head. But sometimes, people have to work long and difficult hours.

This is something else that takes time away from having fun in a relationship. Even if someone is choosing to work long hours, being a workaholic can definitely dim the spark too.

# You fight too much

When you first start dating, there is very little conflict because you both are just too happy. But as time goes on, a lot of couples start to fight.

If you don’t know how to handle your disagreements effectively, it can take its toll on the spark in the relationship. Too much fighting can really drag the two of you down.

# Mismatched sex drives

When one partner wants to have a lot of sex and the other one doesn’t, this puts a lot of stress on the relationship – and it certainly can ruin the spark.

The one who wants to have sex feels rejected, and the other one feels annoyed and pressured to do it more than they want. This definitely is a big cause of the spark going out.

# Loss of physical attraction

If you have been together with your partner for a while, maybe one or both of you have let yourself go. Maybe you have gained a lot of weight or just stopped caring about how you look overall.

If that’s true, then there might just be some loss of attraction for your partner. When there’s no attraction, there can be no spark.