8 Ways To Be A Good Kisser

Kissing is a huge part of a romantic relationship. It’s one way to express endearment, intimacy, and passion. It also allows you to connect with your partner without necessarily having to have sex with them. For a budding relationship, a kiss can be a clear indicator as to whether or not you have a physical connection with someone.

# Keep calm and balm

First of all, it doesn’t matter if you can make girls faint in pleasure or if you can wake up Sleeping Beauty with your kiss. If your lips are dry and cracked, it will make your partner feel like they’re kissing sandpaper. Or a reptile. So no, thank you. The number-one rule of kissing is to keep your lips irresistibly soft and smooth. Use a lip balm to tackle chapped, dry lips, but make sure that it doesn’t feel sticky and gross.

# Stay fresh

Another cardinal rule of kissing is good oral hygiene. No one wants to kiss a trashcan or an ashtray. Smelly, stinky breath is a major turn-off and even a big relationship deal breaker. So before you go in for a kiss *heck, before you even get near someone you want to seduce,* make sure you have clean, fresh breath and that you don’t have bits and pieces of food in your mouth.

And be sure to pop a mint in your mouth before you lean in for that kiss. You can also try to avoid eating anything that would make your breath smell funky on a date to make sure you get that end-of-the-night smooch *and maybe even more.*

# Pre-game

Mood and timing are also important things to consider if you want to plant a memorable and pleasurable kiss on your partner’s lips. So get your pre-game on by setting the mood first. Be pleasant and attentive while maintaining eye contact as you talk.

Flirt a little and turn your partner on with subtle gestures and innuendos. You can lean in closer and touch your partner or hold their hand. Look at their eyes, lower your voice, or just stop talking and close the distance with a gentle smooch. If they don’t pull back, hold the moment and give them your most passionate kiss.

# It should be real

Of course, you cannot kiss someone if they don’t want to. And on your end, you should want it, too. If you’re going to kiss someone just for the sake of kissing, your partner will be able to feel that. If either party feels any awkwardness, or if you don’t like what you’re doing, then please step away. It’s better not to kiss at all than to kiss and have your partner know that you don’t mean it. You will not only embarrass yourself but your partner as well.

# Smooth moves

All good kissers are calm and confident that they know what they’re doing even if they’re also a little jittery inside. How you carry yourself is always attractive and a major turn-on, and you can channel this to your kissing skills to impress your partner.

Even if it’s your first kiss, you can still channel confidence by practicing beforehand and by moving your lips smoothly. Trust us, when you are confident and really into it, your mouth and lips will have a mind of their own. Just feel the moment and don’t ruin it with your insecurities and fears.

# Slow cooking

When you kiss, you don’t go and stick your tongue into your partner as soon as your lips meet. That’s just gross and a little too forward for your partner’s comfort. Even if it’s passionate in your head, in your partner’s mind, it’ll be completely unromantic. So start kissing with the lips. You can pull back to gaze into your partner’s eyes first and build anticipation if you want.

Then lean back in, this time for a deeper kiss. Feel your partner’s lips against yours and if they open their mouth, that’s your cue to start with a little tongue, if you like. From here, you can build the intensity slowly but oh-so-surely.

# Less is more

If you don’t know what to do, it’s best to stick to the idea that “less is more.” You don’t have to create fireworks with your mouth or use your tongue like you’re twirling a cherry stem. Even if you know every kissing trick in the book, you don’t really have to try it all at once. You’ll just end up making your partner feel like you’re giving him or her some oral detailing.

Try to stick to the basics as much as you can, and just make the sensations turn you and your partner on. Start off small and this could even give you the most intense and intimate feeling ever.

# No hickeys, please

Kissing doesn’t have to feel like you’re vacuuming your partner’s mouth, so don’t go for the hickey. It’s not romantic and it’s far from pleasurable. Remember, pro kissers don’t give their partners hickeys, not even on those hidden body parts. First of all, it’s tacky, and second, you’re not teenagers anymore.