8 Ways To Feel Better After A Breakup

We know it doesn’t seem possible right now, but you can learn how to feel better after a breakup with a bit of effort. Breakups suck. Even when you’re the one who does the breaking up, it always stings.

They were a significant part of you and they left, just like that. If you imagined a future with this person, it hurts even more. You imagined an entire life with them and they’re suddenly gone, in a fraction of a moment.

No matter how much you distract the pain, it’s still there. It never gets easier to handle breakups, whether you dated them for months, years, or an entire decade.

# Feel horrible

Yes! Feel sad, feel torn, feel grief. You’re a human being, and you’re emotional whether you want to accept it or not. If anything, you should be more concerned if you don’t feel horrible after a breakup. So feel your emotions, and don’t try to block or shut them out.

Sitting with your feelings is all part of the process of how to feel better after a breakup. This isn’t a step you should skip, no matter how much you want to.

When you’re going through a breakup, you’re basically grieving over the loss of your partner. And that’s perfectly normal, even healthy.

# Cut them from social media

Ah yes, we know you’re not going to do this, at least not right away. But trust us, you have to. You need to cut the cord, and if not, you’ll end up stalking them *which isn’t exactly healthy now, is it*?

If you want to move on from the breakup, seeing them on your social media won’t do any good. If you can’t block them because you’re not ready to, at least mute them or unfriend them.

# Don’t talk to them

Let’s say you deleted them from social media *please say you did*, but they can still contact you. And though it may be tempting, refrain from speaking to them. If you’re serious about learning how to feel better after a breakup, then don’t talk to them. No matter how good it feels to hear from them, restrain from doing so.

Even if it was them that broke up with you, remember why the breakup had to occur. We know you think maybe you can be friends, but you can’t, not right now.

# Make your life ex-free

You know the saying, out of sight, out of mind. Well, it’s a cliché, but it’s true. Whatever you have floating around your bedroom from your ex, put it away. You don’t need any more reminders of what you’ve already lost; moving on requires putting away everything that reminds you of them.

No, you don’t need to burn everything in a tribal fire. Just put it away *there’s no need to be extra dramatic about it*.

# Don’t stay friends

You may suggest staying friends but don’t. If you’ve made it this far by deleting and refraining from speaking to them, then don’t play the friend card. You won’t benefit anything by staying friends with them.

All you’re doing is making things worse and preventing yourself from moving on entirely. You need at least a couple of months away from them to grieve and move on fully.

# Watch what you say about your ex

We’re not going to say you can’t talk shit about your ex because you can, and you probably will. It’s going to feel good to let everything out, but at some point, you’ll need to stop. Staying angry at your ex will only make you hold a grudge forever, and that’s never healthy.

No matter how much of an a**hole they were, you need to forgive – not for them, but yourself. If there’s anger, then there are feelings. That’s the opposite of what you want, right? So, just heal from everything you’re feeling and let it all go.

# Go out with friends

There are two kinds of people in a breakup – one who isolates themselves from their friends, and one who runs toward their friends. It’s a healthier option to be the latter. After a breakup, surround yourself with your people. Spend time going out with your closest friends.

No, you don’t need to hit the club every night, but spend time with your support group. Your friends will be the reminder that life isn’t over just because your heart got broken. Your relationship might have ended, but your life is still filled with so much love.

# Cry when you want to

If you’re feeling a sudden surge of sadness, it’s okay to cry. There will be days where everything feels amazing, and you’re doing great. Then there will be days when you’re feeling lonely and upset about the decision made *regardless of who broke up with who*.

If you’re feeling terrible and miss them more than usual, allow yourself to cry about it, rather than deflecting your emotions. Don’t suppress your feelings. Instead, ride with them.