8 Ways To Figure How To Help Someone Up

We all have moments in our lives where we’re on an amazing high that we ride out until the end. However, of course, those highs can’t last forever. And when that time comes, it’ll be a steep descend. Don’t be scared, it’s just a part of life. Trust me, my life is best described as a roller coaster, so I can tell you all about the lows. All men-related, but, let’s ignore that for now and figure out how to help someone up without making them feel worse.

When you’re feeling down, you obviously want people around you to help you rise up on your feet again. So, this means you’ll have to repay the favor when you’re friends are feeling low. I mean, what are friends for? We all fall down and sometimes we need a hand getting back on our feet. Here are 16 ways to figure how to help someone up.

# Be there until the end

If you’ve decided to be by your friend’s side while they’re going through a rough time, you have to make sure you stick by their side until the end. They need support and someone they can trust, and if they’ve chosen you, you have to honor it.

# Give them space when they need it

It’s important that you spend time with your friend and support them, but it’s also important that you give them some space. I know you may be worried for their well-being, however, no one likes to be suffocated. So, if they ask for space, respect it.

# Don’t give advice

Unless they ask for it. I mean, you aren’t the one going through the experience, so giving advice may not be in your *or their* best interest. It actually may make them feel judged or even more anxious/depressed about their situation. If they want to vent, let them. However, don’t go Dr. Phil on them.

# Avoid saying trigger words

There are some things that are going to act like triggers for them. For example, they may hear a song that’s playing on the radio that played at the wedding of their late husband. Sometimes, it’s going to be unavoidable. However, if you can find out what the triggers are, you can help avoid them.

# It’s not about you

Don’t try to make it about you if you want to help someone up. I’m not saying you’re selfish, however, sometimes people get sucked into that energy and start getting into the mind frame. Focus your attention on your friend and making them feel better.

# Help them find ways to release their emotions

Help them focus on things that make them feel better. For some people, it’s about music, kickboxing, cooking, writing – it can be whatever. Your goal is to find what it is and encourage them to use it as an outlet.

# Ask them what they need help with

So many times, we often assume we know what someone needs help with. However, this is actually pretty selfish of us. So, ask them what they want help with. It could be as easy as wanting a hug. Or they want a slice of pizza. Or they want to be alone. But if you don’t ask, you won’t know.

# Don’t minimize their feelings

I cannot stand when people try to minimize other people’s feelings. Just because you do not feel their emotions, does not make them less valid. So, do not minimize how they feel if you want to know how to help someone up. Tell them that they can take as much time as they want, and that although you don’t know how they’re feeling, you’re here for them.