8 Ways To Get Out Of The Why I Can't Get A Girlfriend Mind Frame

Most men who want a girlfriend – but can’t get one – tend to point the finger at women. It’s easy to do this, point the finger at someone else and blame them for your loss. Heck, women do this too! But at the end of the day, if you’re the one sitting all by yourself in a quiet corner of your room, and wondering, why can’t I get a girlfriend, it’s probably got something to do with you.

It’s hard to self-reflect and ask yourself the hard questions. But honestly, if you really do want a girlfriend, it’s time you did some honest talking in front of the mirror.

If you’re a guy, especially one who’s wondering, why can’t I get a girlfriend, big chances are, you’re convinced you’re just unlucky. Almost every single *and slightly obnoxious* guy has this deep-rooted belief that they’re unlucky in love. And that somehow, every other guy is just luckier with the ladies.

# You’re actually not even trying

If you’re whining and complaining about not having a girlfriend but then spend your time not approaching women, well, what do you honestly expect? That one day some girl will walk up to you and give her hand to you in marriage? If you’re not trying, well, that’s your first problem.

# You want Miss Perfect

Yeah, everyone wants that. But we can’t just sit around and wait for that to happen, can we? Exactly. Yes, you want this hot chick with perfect perky boobs that defy gravity, a juicy ass, and a personality to die for.

She may exist, but it’s a rare find. Why don’t you look for someone who’s real instead? Chances are, you’re not Mr. Perfect right now either. So you’re building this fantasy in your head of perfection when you’re not giving the same back in return.

# You’re not independent

It’s cool to live with your parents, and not have a real job right now. However, at some point, let’s say your late twenties, you’re going to want to branch off on your own. Why? Because it’s a sign of growing up, which women find very appealing… unless you’re Italian, then you can live with your parents until death.

# If you’re rejected, you quit

Rejection is a part of life. You probably got denied a job or a college that you wanted to go to. That’s also rejection. It’s happened to you before, so being rejected by a woman isn’t much different. If you’re wondering, why can’t I get a girlfriend, here’s where you’re going wrong.

Your mistake is that you take rejection from a woman personally, and you allow it to prevent you from talking to other women. That’s the issue.

You have to take it as a speed bump and keep driving. Stop letting your ego get to you, and man up and get out there again.

# Mr. Nice Guy

Being a good person is a good thing. But are you pretending to be a “nice guy” who’s overly meek and accommodating just to get into a girl’s pants? Yeah, girls can see though that act.

Don’t be that guy who tries to be extra nice because he isn’t man enough to stand up for himself. Kindness is good, however, being a pushover is not. No girl would want to date a guy who is weak, and hides under a mask of niceness to sleep with her.

# It’s all about you

You, you, you. Every conversation starts and ends with you. Actually, people can’t remember a story that you didn’t put yourself in. That’s not a good thing. It’s dull, and you’re obnoxious. You’re annoying the people around you with your narcissism.

# You’re boring

If your only hobby is washing your car or looking at yourself in the mirror, get a hobby. Read a book or watch a film – do something that you’ll be able to talk about or share with the world around you. If you’re boring, no one will want to hang around you.

# Bad conversational skills

Do you expect others to do all the talking? Or are you one of those guys who just can’t read the room or see when others are yawning as you’re going on about the same boring topic for over five minutes?

Sometimes, what you think may be interesting could be boring to others. Learn to read the signs, and change the topic the second someone seems bored.