8 Ways To Sext A Guy And Turn Him On

Pen and paper, like stationery and love letters, are now ancient relics of the past. Gone are the times when you’d wait for weeks for mail to reach you and get an update from your beau. This time, all you have to do is whip out your smartphone and text away.

So today, the distance between texting and sexting is only a winking emoji away. But what do you say? How far should you go? Should you send a suggestive nude pic? How can you avoid sounding awkward? Will he think you’re a freak? And what if someone else reads it?

First of all, relax and be confident. No matter how instant things are these days, one of the keys to sexting is to take it slow. Start with subtlety, let him get into it, and enjoy the show!

# Do it for you and not for him

First of all, you do it not to please him but to pleasure your little old self because you like it and you like him, with the latter being a delicious bonus. Doing so will make it more natural and less awkward, therefore exponentially upping up the ante on the titillation factor. This will also make the experience more fun for yourself. And the more fun you have, the more sex appeal you will channel through your sexts.

# Do learn how to spell

You don’t have to use highfalutin words to impress your guy, especially when you’re sexting. But if you’re always sending out texts with spelling and grammar errors, it only goes to show that you’re being careless or you’re simply not paying attention to what you’re really saying.

Perhaps you’re busier eating your lunch or talking to your colleagues over coffee break as you text, but that will completely ruin the mood. Correct spelling and grammar, even with the simplest words, show that you care enough to double check what you’re typing before sending them.

# Do double-check your autocorrect

Aside from human error in grammar and spelling, autocorrect is also the bane of sexting in the moment. Instead of saying you want to stroke his thighs and run your fingers on his hard chest, you might end up saying you want to string his things and ruin your fingerlings on his harvest. Double check that autocorrect hasn’t completely ruined your message or your sex life.

# Do be creative and different

Instead of the usual “Hi!” try to make an impression by putting some more “oomph” and thought to your message. Also, it wouldn’t hurt to put some well-placed emojis.

Saying, “Hi, I thought of you today!” would get an upgrade and a naughtier innuendo if you add a winking emoticon and even a horny devil in the end. This could get the ball rolling on a wonderful sexting session in the morning and a satisfying sexing session by night time.

# Do take it slow

What’s exciting about sexting is the sexual tension built up over time. Coming on too strong or too fast may throw your guy off, especially if you have just met. Don’t escalate from a simple hello to, “I’m totally touching myself while thinking of you.”

Start out with a simple text, and be flirtier and flirtier as you progress. Build up the anticipation by making your texts naughtier and naughtier, until your man can’t wait to actually do the deed with you.

# Don’t give away too much

Despite the tension that you build up by describing what you’re wearing, be careful to still leave something to his imagination. Instead of telling him what you’re going to do to him, just give a hint or simply say you have something planned later and you think he’ll like it very much.

Again, be creative and suggestive as you leave him thinking about you for the rest of the day. Let the teasing do the talking, and leave all the action for later.

# Do keep it real

Saying that you’re going to tie him up to a pole and whip the bejeezus out of him isn’t something that will turn him on, especially because he knows it’s ridiculously untrue *unless it’s true!*. In fact, it may even freak him out a little.

Always text something that you really plan on doing, so there is follow through. Be imaginative, but don’t make it an utter fantasy or an empty promise. However, if you’re playing the fantasy card and he totally gets the role-play, then text away.

# Don’t send naked pictures with your face

In fact, NEVER put a face to that hot naked booty. After the celebrity scandals, hacks, and leaks, the last thing you need is your naked body plastered all over the internet. It might make you an instant celebrity—but not in a good way.

It doesn’t matter if you trust your partner because the bottom line is, you’ll never know where those photos—or videos might end up. Worst case scenario: you don’t know the person you’re texting and you’re very well putting yourself in danger, hurting your relationships, and damaging your career.