9 Best Ways To Shed Your New Relationship Anxiety

There is nothing more exciting than a new relationship, but for some of us who might not have been so lucky in love in the past, a new relationship can be a mixed bag of feelings. The thing about a new relationship is that it is either going to work or not. And, as hard as it is to accept, you probably have very little control over the relationship. All you can do is control your own behavior, which includes squashing your new relationship anxiety.

No one wants to feel rejected or to deal with a broken heart, but the sad reality is that no one makes it out of this life without some bumps in the road, which include some cracks to the heart. But, if you never experience love, then what is life about?

# Realize that nothing lasts forever

Unfortunately, there is nothing in life that is certain. Stop predicting if you will make it in a relationship with your new love or if it will end.

There is no way to control the future, so stop trying and just live in the moment. Enjoy whatever time you have together. Don’t spend it worrying about what you might lose.

# Let go of your past

Most of the time anxiety stems from experience. If you had a rough time in a previous relationship then the fear of heartbreak and rejection is a huge motivating force driving your new relationship anxiety.

Whatever happened in the past, leave it in the past and move forward. Until someone develops a time machine, the only thing that you can change is the future. So, leave what is behind you behind you. Don’t let it taint the here and now.

# Don’t put too many eggs in one basket

Sometimes when we get to close too quickly, we become super dependent. The anxiety of losing something becomes greater. In new relationships, it is easy to isolate yourself. Then, one day you look around and feel like all you have is the person you are dating.

That makes you pretty anxious about losing them. To make sure you aren’t limiting other relationships and making yourself feel dependent, stay in touch with your friends and don’t stop doing the things that you love.

# Be you and don’t hide pieces away

When you start a new relationship, everyone is on their best behavior. The problem is sometimes it isn’t really who we are. And, if you fight to keep the new relationship face too hard, it makes you feel like a fake.

When someone feels like a fake, it brings on a whole lot of anxiety. It is okay to be a better version of yourself during the beginning parts of your relationship, but it also is important to still be you. Express what you want, and what you don’t. Otherwise, you won’t feel genuine, leaving you feeling anxious.

# Have the attitude if it works, it is meant to be

Fate is a pretty incredible thing, yet, at the same time very hard to accept. To do away with new relationship anxiety, go into the relationship knowing that sometimes what we want and what is good for us, or meant to be, are not the same thing.

Fate will do what fate wants. So, adopt the attitude that if it doesn’t work, then it wasn’t meant to be. That way, you won’t worry so much about losing your new love. If it doesn’t work, you believe something better is out there waiting for you.

# Figure out what drives your anxiety then squash it

The only way to solve a problem is to know what the problem is. If you aren’t used to new relationship anxiety and haven’t experienced it in previous relationships, then it might not be it at all.

It might be your gut telling you something is wrong. To figure out if it is anxiety or incompatibility that stirs your anxious feelings, think long and hard about what triggers your emotions and seek to control them.

# Stop playing games

There is nothing more anxiety-provoking than playing games. Have you ever been wrapped up in watching a football game? God, is that anxiety-inducing. If you twist, turn, and play all sorts of games in your new relationship, you create a whole lot of drama for yourself and probably cause the churning anxiety within.

If you want to stop feeling anxious, stop plotting and planning your next move. Just put yourself out there.

# Don’t worry about what the rules say, take a chance and go for it

I don’t know how your generation does it. Texting rules, dating rules, social media rules… it is all anxiety provoking if you ask me. Text them when you want, or ask them out the same night if you feel like it.

And, stop being guided by what the rules say. You aren’t going to lose someone if you are honest and upfront about how you feel and what you want. And, honestly, if you do, then they aren’t worth the anxiety to begin with.

# Stay off of social media!

Social media is probably to blame for the death of many, many, many a relationship whether in the beginning stages or well into the relationship. If you are on their social media page checking things out, stop.

You only find reasons to be anxious. If you want to find out about what they do or who they are, ask, don’t check their status. Man, honestly, I don’t know how your generation exists with the anxiety that social media causes both individuals and relationships.