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9 Reasons Why A Guy May Hold Himself Back From Asking You Out
By: Kratika Sun, 30 Jan 2022 6:28:35
Is he giving all the right signs, but not really doing anything about it?Does he flirt with you, stare at you, but hold back from asking you out or telling you that he likes you?
As frustrating as the circumstance could seem like, it’s a lot more common than you think!Girls may assume that just batting their eyelids at a guy or smiling at him is enough of a sign for him to approach them.But to a guy, there are a million ways to interpret your display of invitation.
Every scenario is different. But surprisingly, almost always, if a guy behaves like he likes you and hits on you, but stops himself from asking you out, the reasons are just a few.
And these 9 reasons can sum up all the reasons behind why he’s withholding his display of love and stopping himself from telling you that he likes you.
# He’s intimidated by you
So you think you’re a warm and friendly person? Well, think again! Does he look at you or try to catch your eye often? Has he ever tried to talk to you by walking up to you? Perhaps, you see yourself as warm and friendly, but he thinks you’ll swat him away for even trying to talk to you!
Try to be more approachable and friendly. And when you have the odd chance of coincidence, give him enough opportunities to strike a conversation with you.
# He’s taken
Yes, he could be dating someone else, or worse, married already! Then why on earth is he staring at you? Well, in all probability, he likes the attention he’s getting back from you. Or perhaps, he’s looking for a fling thing, but just biding his time for the right opportunity to seduce you!
# You’re too hot!
If a guy flirts with you, sticks around you and displays every sign that he’s crazy about you, and yet, he holds back from asking you out, he may just think you’re too good for him.
If a guy thinks you’re a goddess who would never even be interested in dating a mere mortal like him, he may just choose to hang out with you and subtly flirt with you, instead of asking you out on a real date.
# You mean too much to him
Are the both of you good friends? Sometimes, however unlikely as this may seem, a guy may choose to stay friends with a girl he really likes instead of asking her out because he doesn’t want to ruin the perfect platonic relationship both of you share. Simply put, he doesn’t want to lose you as a friend in his pursuit of trying to date you.
# You’re taken
A guy may like you, but he may hold himself back from asking you out because he may have reasons to believe you like someone else or that you’re already seeing someone else. Your friends could have spread that rumor or he may have assumed it for some reason.
Now if you do like him, you need to make it clear to him *subtly* that you’re not interested in dating anyone but him.
# He’s a shy baby!
They do make them this way even in these non-conservative times. A guy may show every sign of liking you from afar, and yet not make any move to approach you or talk to you. So what do you do? If you like him, well, drop a few signs and give him the reassurance he needs to man up and ask you out.
# He finds you too easy
Guys say they’re put off by a girl who plays hard to get, but at the same time, if you come across as very easy, that’ll give a guy more reasons to walk all over you.
If you’re wondering why he hasn’t asked you out, ask yourself if you’re giving into him too easily. At times, a guy may not make the effort to pursue you because he knows you’re very into him already.
# The happy flirter
He flirts with you and teases you, but he has no intention of taking it forward. Perhaps, he likes you but doesn’t want to date you. Or maybe you aren’t the kind of girl he’s looking for. So until he finds the right girl, he may just choose to flirt with you and use you as the backup girl.
# He’s dating you in his mind
In his head, he thinks the both of you are together already. He’s not considered the idea of naming the relationship, nor has he realized that you need words of love or reassurance to feel better about the nameless relationship both of you share.
If you’re in this dilemma, you just need to get him to say the words out loud.