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9 Reasons Why Love Hate Relationships Happen
By: Kratika Tue, 02 Aug 2022 9:43:22
A love hate relationship is wild, thrilling, and full of passion. But on the flip side, it’s also stressful and heart-wrenching. For every exhilarating rush of love, there are several moments of rage and anger.
If you’re in a simple and happy romance, the thought of throwing each other on tables and walls and indulging in carpet burn-inducing rough sex after an angry fight could seem really exciting. Heck, watching someone else’s love hate affair could also make your perfectly happy romance feel rather mundane and boring!
But you need to know this – as good as it may appear, love hate relationships look good only in the movies or when you hear about it.
# Incompatible personalities
Both of you are very different from each other in your approach towards life and expectations from it. This causes confusion and clashes on how to handle situations and how you see the world around you.
# Ego clashes
Big egos can singlehandedly destroy even the happiest of relationships within a few months. Never let egos enter your relationship, or you’d be setting the relationship up for doom even before it has a chance to bloom.
# Strong personalities
If both of you have strong personalities and always want things your own way and hate giving in to someone else’s wishes, an argument may be waiting just around the corner.
# Jealousy and insecurities
If one or both of you are sensitive to harsh words or easily incensed by flirty behavior, it may lead to jealousy and insecurity creeping into the relationship. This could turn perfect love into bitter hatred.
# Wandering eyes
This is something most guys have a hard time dealing with. Do you hate it when your man constantly stares at other women when you’re around? Perhaps your man’s ogling eyes could be the catalyst behind your love hate relationship.
# Different expectations
Do you and your partner have different expectations and wants from each other? Are both of you having a hard time trying to be the other person’s perfect partner?
# Unvoiced frustrations
Anger doesn’t usually pour out of nowhere, nor does it erupt all of a sudden. Sometimes, it takes several years of suppressed frustrations and anger to burst out and create a love hate relationship.
# An unwillingness to change
You may realize that your partner doesn’t like something you do, but yet, you make no effort to change or try to reassure them. It could also be the other way around.
# Controling lovers
Some partners are inherently controlling. If you don’t allow your partner to control you, they may argue and reason with you constantly just to make you give in or yield to them.